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A year wont make much difference waise, how old are u?
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His criteria is different. That's his choice. It's ok to reject a guy because he is short, fat, dark, fobby, bald, has a beard or what have you because "attraction is SO important" or "I'm just not feeling the "it" factor" but not ok to have doubts about an older girl or someone who he is not fully attracted to?
That.........
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Blah. Why is everyone after him??
His criteria is different. That's his choice. It's ok to reject a guy because he is short, fat, dark, fobby, bald, has a beard or what have you because "attraction is SO important" or "I'm just not feeling the "it" factor" but not ok to have doubts about an older girl or someone who he is not fully attracted to?
Edit: add hairy guys AND hairless plucked chickens to the list too
That.........
If the OP has a criteria for a younger girl, he should not have gone to visit the girl in the first place. Its just that he is confused about his criteria. The girl's geographical location and education are the plus points which made the OP to visit her but he must have known her age beforehand. If he is not able to compromise on this, he should not proceed with this. We have to compromise on one or two factors in the proposals. What if he finds a younger girl with less education and in Pakistan (which he does not seem to be considering)? So the OP should decide himself on which factor he is willing to compromise. But he seriously seems to have problem with the girl's age (and this is quite normal with our desi guys). So he should not proceed with the girl.
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^agreed with that............
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So many other things you should be concerned with regarding rishta's, compatibility? But it seems like her age and her being kubool surat would be an issue later-on..since it's an issue today.
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Perhaps she was the first girl he met in the rishta process.
The rishta process is like dating in a way, you don't know what you're truly looking for in your SO until you've met a few families. I'm sure once he meets more people he'll have a better understanding of what's important for him and also which social taboo's are irrelevant.
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I met with girl's family who is one year older than me. girl is ok(not beautiful, qabool sorat). her education and family background is good. on the other hand, there are some young and educated girls also back home (pakistan). If I choose from there then I supposed to wait for whole year (immigration process of future wife).
all grils are not related to our family(ghair log).
What do you think? Is it ok to marry a girl who is one year older than me?
How are your looks? If you are also just kabool surat, then whats wrong with marrying an ordinary looking girl? but if u think that u r handsome and good looking, well educated and a good earner, then dont spoil the life of the "qabool soorat" girl (because if it has made you think once, it will continue to be an issue laters too) and marry someone who is younger, more beautiful and educated.
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Our Rasool (PBUH) married Khadija who was many years his senior! :)
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:)
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What does qubool surat mean exactly?
Doable.
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age is really just a number and one yr is not even that much of a difference if you click with this girl.
Also remember that sometimes you think someone is average looking but once you get to know them, you begin to love them more for who they are and then appearances don't even matter much. Or vice versa, you may totally love the way someone looks but when you get to know them from close, you don't feel that much attracted to them...