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so you mean those things shouldn’t matter while looking for a life partner??? 
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nomi …stop it bache…u think too much 
@OP if you like everything else about the girl, then I thnk you should let the “age” go …
cheers
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Are these the deal breakers for a marriage?
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Are these the deal breakers for a marriage?
could be.........would you marry an UGLY person (compared to you)?? with a shady family background??
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Well if you are asking me then for me personally the most important things are the religious and cultural values. Having difference in them might be risky in marriage. The rest of the stuff can be taken care of.
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Well if you are asking me then for me personally the most important things are the religious and cultural values. The rest of the stuff can be taken care of.
exactly........thats your personal preference.......everybody has them.......and different preferences..........you just can't say their's are worse than yours....its just different..
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My sincere advice please don't get married to any one. A marriage need lots of maturity which you are lacking at this point in time being stuck on things like age, looks, family background etc.
before you jump to conclusion and give a hasty advice ask why do such things matter in the first place. and why do ppl bother about them...
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exactly........thats your personal preference.......everybody has them.......and different preferences..........you just can't say their's are worse than yours....its just different..
I totally agree with you with you but there is a difference between superficial/materialistic requirements and things which logically make sense
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before you jump to conclusion and give a hasty advice ask why do such things matter in the first place. and why do ppl bother about them...
Asking exactly what? that why does age, looks and family background matters more to him then the character, nature and personality of a person?
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logically make sense
that is again subjective..........'logic' and 'sense' varies quite a lot :D
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Asking exactly what? that why does age, looks and family background matters more to him then the character, nature and personality of a person?
why does it matter at all? Not more or less.
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that is again subjective..........'logic' and 'sense' varies quite a lot :D
Exactly common sense is very uncommon now a days :)
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why does it matter at all? Not more or less.
Sorry i am unable to understand your question. Are you asking why it matters to the OP or why it matters to me?
For the first one I'll say is that OP is still immature and for the second one I can say that the OP asked for it
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ofcourse these things should matter, just the way nature, personality etc matter. the difference is these things you can find out instantly as opposed to finding nature character etc.
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Thank you Mirch. I will do Istekhara.
1 year is not a big difference. I know couples with that difference.
You should consider not the age but the personality and values, to see who is most compatible.
I'm sure there's plenty more girls wherever you are. Look locally before you go back home. If everyone goes back home, who's gonna marry the girls out here?
As far as age/looks are concerned, it's up to you, although IMO one year isn't a big deal.
Get to know her better, if you two 'click' you won't care much for age or looks, which is what's more important down the road.
Do an Istekhara. If you do not know what istekhara is look it up.
nomi ....stop it bache...u think too much
@OP if you like everything else about the girl, then I thnk you should let the "age" go ...
cheers
I can see your maturity level.
My sincere advice please don't get married to any one. A marriage need lots of maturity which you are lacking at this point in time being stuck on things like age, looks, family background etc.
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I dont think you should marry her. A one year age gap forced you to come online and post about it...imagine what havoc it might wreak in the future.
Also, from your post it seems as if you'd be settling for her since no one else is around. I would never do that nor would I want to be on the receiving end of such treatment.
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Blah. Why is everyone after him??
His criteria is different. That's his choice. It's ok to reject a guy because he is short, fat, dark, fobby, bald, has a beard or what have you because "attraction is SO important" or "I'm just not feeling the "it" factor" but not ok to have doubts about an older girl or someone who he is not fully attracted to?
Edit: add hairy guys AND hairless plucked chickens to the list too
I agree with Ashy's advice though. OP, if you think you're going to develop a complex about her age or keep bringing it up, do not marry a girl older than you for HER sake.
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Thank you Mirch. I will do Istekhara.
I can see your maturity level.
My maturity level? :|
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My maturity level? :|
I was saying to chipotle.