I met with girl’s family who is one year older than me. girl is ok(not beautiful, qabool sorat). her education and family background is good.
on the other hand, there are some young and educated girls also back home (pakistan). If I choose from there then I supposed to wait for whole year (immigration process of future wife).
all grils are not related to our family(ghair log).
What do you think? Is it ok to marry a girl who is one year older than me?
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if you can marry a girl who is 4, 5 years younger than you then why you cant marry a girl who is only a year elder than you, i am elder than my husband and we neve had any issues.......but i think you are going to pin point her all the time that she is elder so pls stay away.......
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Age aint nothin but a number!
but seriously, to answer your question: Yes it's okay. I know quite a few couples where the girl is a bit older...
if it's bothering you and think it may cause some kind of tension in the future, then no.
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marrying there is better than waiting and marrying someone back home when you return. But if you feel these are issues i mean her being qubool soorat and age as well. You should go for a younger and more beautiful wife why not.
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Please don't proceed with that girl. If you are so conscious of her age now, this will keep bothering you in the future also. If it would have been a love marriage, perhaps you would be more willing to ignore things like age and qabool soorat. But in arranged settings, its better NOT to compromise on these things. If you can easily get younger and pretty girl, you should go for it even if it means marrying a girl back home. Waiting for immigration is not a big deal. Do nikah first, have the papers prepared and then do the rukhsati.
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i dont see any thing wrong in getting marrying with a girl older than you, and specially when it's just one year.
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family background and education is important. these are people who u have seen and judged firsthand when you speak of the qubool surat girl.
back home u would not be able to extensively weigh her family background and education given that you are abroad and she is in pakland and neither would your family. at the end of the day, all girls will become qubool surat. time is the greatest leveller. family backgrounds matter more than ages and looks.
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Are u beautiful or qubool surat?
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What does qubool surat mean exactly?
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What does qubool surat mean exactly?
Qabool soorat means average looking and not very pretty.
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What does qubool surat mean exactly?
it means acceptable.
To the OP they way you talk about her already wants me to tell you to stay away from her.
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only if the poor girl cud read this now
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if you can marry a girl who is 4, 5 years younger than you then why you cant marry a girl who is only a year elder than you, i am elder than my husband and we neve had any issues.......but i think you are going to pin point her all the time that she is elder so pls stay away.......
yep.
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1 year is not a big difference. I know couples with that difference.
You should consider not the age but the personality and values, to see who is most compatible.
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I met with girl's family who is one year older than me. girl is ok(not beautiful, qabool sorat). her education and family background is good. on the other hand, there are some young and educated girls also back home (pakistan). If I choose from there then I supposed to wait for whole year (immigration process of future wife).
all grils are not related to our family(ghair log).
What do you think? Is it ok to marry a girl who is one year older than me?
I'm sure there's plenty more girls wherever you are. Look locally before you go back home. If everyone goes back home, who's gonna marry the girls out here?
As far as age/looks are concerned, it's up to you, although IMO one year isn't a big deal.
Get to know her better, if you two 'click' you won't care much for age or looks, which is what's more important down the road.
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marry someone atleast 3-5 years younger than you ... the wisdom behind this is women start to look more older compared to men as time passes (generally speaking). So for example at 40 women may literally look 40 while men may not. This is what my elders used to say.
In any case, this is once-in-a-life decision you should exercise every right to find someone best for you.
All the best.
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Do an Istekhara. If you do not know what istekhara is look it up.
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I met with girl's family who is one year older than me. girl is ok(not beautiful, qabool sorat). her education and family background is good. on the other hand, there are some young and educated girls also back home (pakistan). If I choose from there then I supposed to wait for whole year (immigration process of future wife).
all grils are not related to our family(ghair log).
What do you think? Is it ok to marry a girl who is one year older than me?
If you dont mind me asking, where are u from?
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My sincere advice please don't get married to any one. A marriage need lots of maturity which you are lacking at this point in time being stuck on things like age, looks, family background etc.
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^exactly.
she came into this world one year before you, not a century
DO YOU SEE HOW STUPID IT SOUNDS.