Re: My rishta situation (again).....
Well for him you are just a backup plan i.e. let's see if he can get the other much better girl, if not you are always there
But what's so wrong about that? everyone does it. What is wrong is that the guy hasnt spoken about it to the family that he needs time. That's all. Otherwise everyone has the right to look for their options before making a decision. It's a marriage that is going to take place not a lottery that you leave it to your luck.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
hmmmmm ok this all makes sense...
I dont think he is lying about being out of the country to be honest because i know his work sends him out alll the time.
Doesnt he have the right to consider other options? just like i do?
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
But what's so wrong about that? everyone does it. What is wrong is that the guy hasnt spoken about it to the family that he needs time. That's all. Otherwise everyone has the right to look for their options before making a decision. It's a marriage that is going to take place not a lottery that you leave it to your luck.
also his mother is still in pakistan
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
also his mother is still in pakistan
Yup.
Everyone has the right to look at their options, thats why i suggested your family does the same. Yes, once you give your consent then its wrong to look elsewhere. However in this case, you guys havent even started that process so expecting the guys side to not look at their options is really absurd.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
But what's so wrong about that? everyone does it. What is wrong is that the guy hasnt spoken about it to the family that he needs time. That's all. Otherwise everyone has the right to look for their options before making a decision. It's a marriage that is going to take place not a lottery that you leave it to your luck.
Guys always like to keep their options open even if they are married ( not all of them )
He was initially interested in the OP that's why the long calls and talks and after meeting her he not on the same level any more. If his behavior by far doesn't give you an idea then I am not sure what will. A guy either wants to be with a girl or not PERIOD.
If you still prefer a guy who is looking for a spouse like he's buying tomatoes going from one vendor to another in search of the best one then good luck to you.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
Guys always like to keep their options open even if they are married ( not all of them ) He was initially interested in the OP that's why the long calls and talks and after meeting her he not on the same level any more. If his behavior by far doesn't give you an idea then I am not sure what will. A guy either wants to be with a girl or not PERIOD. If you still prefer a guy who is looking for a spouse like he's buying tomatoes going from one vendor to another in search of the best one then good luck to you.
I totally understand what you are saying.....
But his behaviour has only been like this for a week....im need to go out but when i come back im going to type it out again in chronological order....just to clear my own head too! thanks for help everyone!
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
Guys always like to keep their options open even if they are married ( not all of them ) He was initially interested in the OP that's why the long calls and talks and after meeting her he not on the same level any more. If his behavior by far doesn't give you an idea then I am not sure what will. A guy either wants to be with a girl or not PERIOD. If you still prefer a guy who is looking for a spouse like he's buying tomatoes going from one vendor to another in search of the best one then good luck to you.
I dnt know the details of his behavior change, i commented only based on him not commiting to the rishta immediately.
I still dont see anything wrong with having a good look at the options before commiting yourself. Each to their own :)
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
hmmmmm ok this all makes sense...
I dont think he is lying about being out of the country to be honest because i know his work sends him out alll the time.
Doesnt he have the right to consider other options? just like i do?
I think he may be out of the country meeting another girl. That's fine.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
When scriptwriters want to linger a story they give it interesting u-turns ... inspiron what expectations do you have of him? What expectations do your parents have of him?
We'll never be right with our suggestions ... well most of us won't ...
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
I totally understand what you are saying.....
But his behaviour has only been like this for a week....im need to go out but when i come back im going to type it out again in chronological order....just to clear my own head too! thanks for help everyone!
Did he tell you that he was going to be really busy or traveling the whole week? The way I see it.....and I may be wrong.....but even guys who have written dating books.......say that if he's truly interested......then he can take 5 minutes out his busy day to make a phone call. It need not be long, it can be brief....but it's his way of connecting with you and keeping the communication flow consistent. Not communicating...can reflect lack of interest.
Again...with time you'll know.......if he's not into you.....it clears your way for someone better. That's why I think it's better for your dad to call and get an idea so you can put an end to the suspense and move forward with your life.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
I want a clear No if this is the case because bless my family they are kind of exciting confused too....
My mum when she talks to me is like 'have you thought about an outfit to wear to his house for when he invites us?'
In my head im thinking....mum he hasnt even invited us over yet why would i plan an outfit.
In the 2 years of looking for me this is the first rishta that has said yes and thats why everyone is quite nervous/anxious/excited....esp me haha
that make you stick with him.
you should pray and ask Allah for best.
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
Did he tell you that he was going to be really busy or traveling the whole week? The way I see it.....and I may be wrong.....but even guys who have written dating books.......say that if he's truly interested......then he can take 5 minutes out his busy day to make a phone call. It need not be long, it can be brief....but it's his way of connecting with you and keeping the communication flow consistent. Not communicating...can reflect lack of interest.
Again...with time you'll know.......if he's not into you.....it clears your way for someone better. That's why I think it's better for your dad to call and get an idea so you can put an end to the suspense and move forward with your life.
Yes he did tell me that this week will be very very hectic and hes got a new MD and new project starting.
If he needs some space you know what thats fine.
I had a life before him and i just have to carry on and hope for the best.
Ive done istikhara and left everything in Gods hands
Re: My rishta situation (again).....
^ Thats all you need to do! Inshallah, whatever happens it will be for the best!