Re: My Rishta demands
THAT is exactly what I’m afraid of! Marriage is lottery! Either you’re lucky to find the right person, or you’re doomed.
“What if” questions pops up in my mind, whenever my mum talks about marriage.
I don’t have high expectations like many girls, who wants a mix of John Abraham, Albert Einstein and Jim Carrey.
What I want is a person with a good heart. A carring person who will love and respect me for who I am and will respect my family. Ofcourse he needs to be educated and working but not necessarily that he earns $$$$$. (Jitne zaida $$$ Utna zaida chota dil bhi ho sakta hai).
I know a bunch of very well educated girls who have been picky with proposals. Had high demands and now after 5 years rishte nehi aa re. They don’t want to marry a guy who lives outside DK. (Denmark isn’t filled with a lot pakistanis). And whenever they got engaged the guys turned out as &/)%&/¤%/. One of them, was engaged to a “Masbi” type. 5 waqti namaazi hai. Whenever her parents called his family they would always say that he either is still at work (working type) or is in masjid (neik insaan hai)
Well after few month they found out that actually his mother needs to kick him out from bed whenever namaaz kha waqt hota hai, and he is a very kanjoos insaan. First of all, he doesn’t like to work. Second of all, he keeps his entire paycheck for himself. His mum needs to " beg" him for money and had to tell him where she would spend it (his siblings are too small to work yet). He was a violent person. Shortly said, he was a bad type!.
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Zobia, Stick to few demands you cannot negotiate with and keep them in focus. Start to know about him and his family. Trust your gut! If something doesn’t feel right, then don’t doubt your capability to judge.
I wish you all the best and pray that may you find a husband who you prefer.
Ameen.