My Prophet (PBUH's) love for his Wives (Some Romantic Moments of His Life) _Exclusive

[little_human]

Re: My Prophet (PBUH’s) love for his Wives (Some Romantic Moments of His Life) _Exclu

@Ibn_Sadique

little human

There is an inherent problem here. From your perspective it seems that Prophet’s (saw) home life was like that of a Christian Monastery or a Nunnery where the inhabitants were either continuously praying, reading Quran then busy in Zikr – very sombre and serious people who had no time to be human thus showing all the emotions and enjoy life.

In ‘our’ perspective the members of Prophet[peace and blessings be upon him and his family] besides being of high calibre piety were humans in essence thus they laughed together, they had normal human interactions even small tiffs here and there.

Yeah the hadith is not from Sahih Bukhari or Sahih Muslim but that doesn’t mean it is not authentic.

You should know that Hz. Saudah (ra) on being old had ‘given’ her right to Hz. Aisha (ra). You can read that from the following:

Saudah Bint Zam’a

Just as Muhammad married Khadijah through an initiative on her part, likewise, after her death, Saudah was married to him through the efforts of some of his friends. Saudah was one of the earliest converts to Islam and had suffered much since she embraced Islam. She had migrated to Abyssinia with her husband, who died there.

Muhammad was worried after the death of Khadijah, as he was going on a mission to al-Ta’if and there was no one to look after the small children, Khaulah bint Hakim suggested to him that he needed some affectionate and sincere companion who could also look after his children. She proposed Saudah, who was also in need of help.

She was about fifty years old when she was married to Muhammad in 2 A. H./620 A. D. Marriage was solemnized by her father, and four hundred dirham dowry (mahr) was paid to her by Muhammad. (Tabaqat Ibn Sa’d). All scholars of Seerah are of the opinion that the Prophet married Saudah after the death of Khadijah and before he married A’isha. (Tabari).

She was very obedient and dutiful and, in this respect, she surpassed all the other wives of the Prophet. She was also very generous, like the Prophet, and more so than any of his wives except A’isha. Her generosity is shown by an incident which happened in the caliphate of 'Umar. He sent one sack full of dirhams to her but she distributed it as soon as she received it.

When she became very old, she gave her turn (of a visit of the Prophet) to A’isha. A’isha reported that Saudah bint Zam’a gave up her turn to her, and so the Prophet used to give A’isha both her day and the day of Saudah. (Bukhari and Muslim). She died in the last year of ‘Umar’s caliphate. (about 23 A.H.)’

http://sisters.islamway.com/modules.php?name=Sections&op=viewarticle&artid=10

Well just to wet your appetite I’m posting another incident between Hz. Sauda, Hz. Hafsah and Hz. Aisha (May Allah (swt) be pleased with them)

Razinah, a maid servant of the Prophet said: That once Saudah Yamaniah (ra) came to Aisha (ra) and Hafsah bint Umar (ra) was already there. Saudah looked very beautiful at that time and was wearing a Yamanite shirt and a head gear of a similar cloth. She had two decorative marks near the corners of her eyes; and they were aloe and saffron. Aisha said that she had seen the women decorating their faces in that way.

Hafsah said to Aisha, 'O Umm al Mummin! The Prophet will be coming and this Saudah will shine before him ’

At this Aisha said to Hafsah, ‘Fear Allah’.

Hafsah said, ‘I am determined to spoil her beauty aids’.

At this Aisha asked her what she had planned to do. Saudah was hard of hearing.

Hafsah said, ‘O Saudah! The one eyed Dajjal (anti Christ) has appeared’.

Saudah said, 'Is this so?’

After saying this she got terrified and began trembling (on account of fear).

She asked her, ‘Where should I hide myself?’

Hafsah said to her, ‘Hide yourself in the yonder tent’.

This tent was made of the branches of date trees and the people (way-farers) took shelter in it. Saudah went to the tent and hid herself in it. That tent was full of dirt and filth and was covered with cob-webs.

In the mean time the Prophet came, and theses two were laughing so much that they could not even speak a single word. The Prophet asked them why they were laughing. But they merely pointed towards the tent and continued laughing. The Prophet went to that tent and there he found Saudah trembling. He asked her what had happened to her. Thereupon she asked him if the one-eyed anti christ had appeared.

The Prophet told her that he had not appeared; his appearance was sure. Thereafter the Prophet took Saudah out and began removing the dirt and filth and cobwebs from her body.

Saudah, radhiallahu 'anha, laughed with the others when she realised it was a joke. (Abu Yala, al Haithami Vol IV p 316 and Tabrani)

@little_human

………Khair I rest my case.

On what???

:hehe: Firstly, I was going to be offline from the net for days, so I said I would leave the discussion for a while. That’s what I meant when I say I rest my case.

Secondly, no I don’t think the Prophet pbuh was a very serious person and his home life was like a monastery or something. I don’t know where you got that from [even though I am a serious person myself - I hardly crack a smile when I read jokes in the jokes forum - which I do v rarely :o ]. I agree that they have normal human interactions but within the ikhlaq taught in islam. My issue was with the smearing of food and even as Lajo put it that it could have been smeared with a finger - a little bit maybe? I don’t know. But we’ve been taught to even pick up a grain of rice fallen on the dastarkhan n eat it. I don’t know how to put it for u to understand - it’s about respect of food, be it how little the amount is. Khana khailnay kee chez nahin.

Thirdly when I read the hadiths that was posted I found a v simliar hadith narrated by Ahmad bin Hanbal {sp?} in a book. BUT the ending was different - the food was smeared, the plate was broken and Prophet pbuh was angry. I have returned the book now and I am not exactly sure if it was the same wife or a different one. I tried to find that exact hadith online but I wasn’t able to, it seems that such hadiths from this narrator is absent online. I like to post things with direct reference, thus one more reason I thought - ah! forget it if I can’t find the source online.

The hadith u posted might be a laugh-together-but-small-tiffs-here-and-there hadith for u but it’s a weird one for me.

About Lady Saudah, she was 50 years old when married to the Prophet pbuh. The incident u posted, I don’t know how old the other two wives were at the time of incident but Lady Saudah would be 50+.

Hafsah said to Aisha, 'O Umm al Mummin! The Prophet will be coming and this Saudah will shine before him ’ – Is this the reason to spoil her beauty aids? Doesn’t sound like to me she just wants fun.

At this Aisha said to Hafsah, ‘Fear Allah’. — What is it to fear if they r just having fun.

I come from a big family, we have fun too but we know our limits. Maybe having younger siblings, I tend to discipline them on the basis of what I know as ikhlaq in Islam - well at least I try to. Maybe I am too serious :hoonh: