my problem

paki_rana · February 24, 2013, 9:30pm

Re: my problem

Would you mind explaining this a bit more? Because your son lives abroad too right? So what exactly about these 2 daughters living aborad that prevents them from taking care of you?

The harsh and honest answer to this question is nothing. Your DIL has 0 respect for you. Your son has already sent you back to Pakistan which sent your DIL a clear message that if she nags him and causes enough arguments in the house, he will take her side. So at this point in time, there is nothing your son or anyone else can to the DIL to make her understand anything. MAYBE someday she will come around on her own and change her attitude/behavior…but its not going to happen anytime soon.

Whatever fears you had when you son wanted to marry this “American girl”…its useless to talk about them now. He is now married to her and she’s the mother of his 3 children. He’s not going to abandon them anytime soon. Talking about the past does nothing to help your current situation. Understand that doing it only accomplishes venting…but won’t get you a solution to your problem.

How any of us in this forum would treat our parents and/or in-laws also doesn’t help you at all. We don’t have any control over YOUR situation.

No, you don’t have to live life alone and die alone without the company of your grandchildren. However, as your DIL and son has made it clear to you…you’ll need to make certain compromises if you want to live with them. Again, this is not a matter of right vs. wrong, fair vs. unfair, OR whether or not I or anyone else here would treat our elders like this. I know this sounds harsh but that’s your reality. Right now its upto YOU to decide just how badly you want to move back in with your son. You can choose to live alone in Pakistan OR you can choose to make the compromises your DIL/son demands and live with them.

BTW, in Pakistan…you lived there for decades right? Do you not have any friends or other family members who you can visit and spend time with to ease some of the loneliness ?

How about u dnt give her ur suggestions. U may use ur extraordinary thinking somewhere else