^Mabs right.
Ever heard of the saying, “Shadi aisa ladoo hai, jo khai woh pachtaye, aur jo na khaye woh bhi pachtaye.”
That’s exactly how our twisted desi society works. They are saying that you are “lucky that you’re single” because right now you’re still young. But once you get to your mid and late twenties, then they’ll be chiding you for not having gotten married earlier. Basically, you can’t win.
Pray to Allah that He blesses you with partner that is compatible to you. And remind yourself that ALL relationships are imperfect. It’s human nature for us to blow things way out of proportion. For example, let’s say that you and your best friend have a wonderful relationship most of the time. Then one day she hurts you with some careless remark or action. So you will complain and complain and complain and complain and complain and complain to the whole world about her as if she were your worst enemy. It’s human nature for us to talk little about the wonderful aspects of our relationships, but then when something bad happens, we can’t stop talking about it.
Your aunt, sis, etc complain about marriage. But I bet if you told these women to leave their husbands behind and live separately for the rest of their lives…they would change their minds and make excuses, lol. If we can get into arguments with our own parents, who brought us into this world, then we can get into arguments WITH ANYONE and EVERYONE! It’s a part of life that will never change.
Here’s my advice. When dealing with a rishta, do a thorough investigation and get to know the guy well. Pray for the best and take steps to secure yourself. Complete your education if you haven’t done so already. It’s good to have a functioning college degree so that you can get a job to support your marriage and also to support yourself in case your marriage fails. Have confidence and respect in yourself, and know your Islamic rights as a muslim woman/wife.