thanks maham that was really sweet of you to say that...to be honest my husband is not bothered about it as much as I am...also im not sure if I would want the whole idea of mehdi,walima etc I think just a small gathering because it wont be the same as your wedding day....I think if i ask my mum she would be happy to have an anniversary for me but i think my inlaws would think im kind off strange..I dont know. Like you said there is nothing wrong with having another function where you dress up like a bride and groom even though some people might think its funny!
I do have photos but there are not digital only film so i cant donwload them
hey...why would your in-laws have an issue with it if it makes you happy?!? ok fine going for the whole proper wedding may not suit them or whatever but having a big wedding anniversary party shouldnt hurt anyone. And pleaseee lets not even think about others who might find it funnie? why should you give up your desires because of what they may think? or why in the 1st place would you invite any such losers?...i am telling you, you gotta do this for yourself girl!!! now i am going to message you everyday reminding you about it...hehe joking! but yah please dont give up your desires thinking what others mite think about it.
ami123: Thank God that you and your husband are happy. That is THE most important thing. I might be wrong but in these days there are people who just get married for the SHADI experience i.e. going too much into whether your bridal outfit matches the drapes of the stage and practise model poses for months before the wedding!! It is soo absurd, I actually know women who are like that, and hence going to their weddings feels so superficial! there is also the competition thing yani agar woh aisa kiya to mai usey ziad karounga - in terms of photography, jewelry, makeup you name it.
Weddings are supposed to be a honest celebration of a honest bonding between two individuals who are about to start a new life together. In the end heck with photos and all those thiings. There is nothing more beautiful than a face which beams of joy and bliss. No makeup, jewelry, outfits, photos can outdo that......just my thought.I would be happy to elaborate :-)
ami123: Don't worry bout not having a lavish wedding, a few ppl. in my family had grand weddings but unfortunately one lasted for 4 months. Whereas, the other ended their marriage after 7 days.
I thought i just add that we did have another videotape of my wedding that was made from another camera someone had which was supposed to be a better copy but my mum cannot find the video anywhere at home we have searched high and low for it..It had footage of my close friends that came to my wedding...I didnt have any pics taken with them as the camera stopped working towards the end of the wedding for some reason...I guess i kept getting bad luck! I am happy for my sister she had a really nice engagement and her wedding is next year in uk....I just wish I get this thought out of my mind....thanks for everyones comments and replies....everyone has been so kind and lovely...
awwwwwwwww ami123 i feel for u, but u know, i know this couple who didnt have a lavish wedding, they had just a rukhsati bass, they didnt have much money for the wedding, the bride didnt wear much jewellry, and her clothes werent great, and she herself knows this, they didnt even have a home movie of the wedding! but what they did was, have an anniversary party on their 1st year, they had a better financial situation then, and now she (the bride) has blown up pics from her party not her wedding and put them in albums n stuff.
mayb u cud go to the parlour and all for ure sisters wedding and have sum proffesional snaps taken on along with ure sisters :)
aww ami123, don't feel bad! its easy to fall into the trap of comparing your wedding to others, especially on forums like these where we constantly see new lavish wedding photos. like everyone has said, appreciate the fact that you have such a great marriage.
also consider getting dressed up again with your husband and getting a nice phote shoot done. you could also throw a nice anniversary celebration and really dress up, get a new lengha etc
thanks once again for everyones replies...just a question isnt it abit late for me to get all bridal dressed up with hubby and having an anniversary party...its been 6 years...anyones opinions please does anyone know anyone else that has had a celebration after so many years of marriage?? Does anyone think 6 years is abit too long..I wich I had done it earlier but you know I was preoccupied in my daughter...
I know I had so many nice functions for my wedding, and still when I read these forums, I feel like, Oh I wish I could've done this or that. And you sound very unhappy with what it was. Is it from comparing yourself to others, or have you always felt that way?
Others are right that you should be thankful for a good marriage, which is far more important than a good wedding. However, there is nothing wrong with celebrating that wedding once more. Perhaps on your next anniversary you could renew your vows in a large party, getting things done the way you want them with lots of video and photos and decor to your liking... and a new outfit of course!
As for 6 years being too long -- I don't think it is. But if you want, you could wait till the 10th because it feels like another extra special occasion.
Sahar: How can you renew islamic vows again once you have got married? I was just wondering....I got married at the age of 21 now I am 27 years old..When I was 21 I was still young so things such as decor, clothes, makeup etc didnt bother me for some reason...back then I didnt really thing about it everything was such a big rush, and all I cared about was getting married to my hubby. Even when i used to look at my pics like a couple of months after my wedding i thought they were ok..i didnt really make a big deal the fact the lighting was bad etc. Then i didnt look at my wedding album or video for another 3 years because I was so busy with other things i just couldnt find the time to...then I sat one day and looked at my album and video and i felt really sad. I think my views may have changed as i grew older...going to nice weddings and comparing my wedding with theirs. Now its been like nearly a year i have on and off days...but I try not to think about it...Now it has all started again as my sister is getting married and talking about her clothes, jewellery, venue etc.....I know i may sound really silly but I really wanted to share my thoughts with some other people....
its not too long ami123.. my cousin got married 5yrs back n we still take her as "Naye dulhan" although she is now mother of 2kids.. MAshAllah... people throw a grand party even after 25yrs of their wedding..
My idea: just have a huge party, go to a salon,get your hair nad makeup done, get a new dress (doesn't have to be lengha, but if u want...... ), have hubby dress up, rent a hall, invite everyone, cut a cake, and have professional pictures taken! It will be so nice and aas long as hubby will cooperate with you..ignore what haters will say.
thanks sara but i have been thinking and I think i should wait until my sister gets married next year...after my sister is married I think it wil be better to have a celebration maybe on 7th wedding anniversary. also I really want to wear a langa with a teeka, jhomar and all the bridal jewellery...Do you think that wil be abit too over that top? I really cant afford to buy a new langa maybe i can just wear my shaddi one even though it is outdated at the moment? Im confused...
Yeah..if u think it will be better to wait til next year, that's fine...
instead fo a lengah, why not get a really beautiful saree? you can wear your wedding jewelery and all with the saree, it won't look bad...
btw... u said u can't afford it, if it's not too personal what's ur budget? are u able to go to pak to shop or no?
Actually my sister is going to pak very soon to buy her wedding clothes i could ask her but i dont want to put too much pressure on her. The reason why I wanted to wear a langa is that I wanted the dupatta on the head just like brides have them and with a saree it wont look right....
I always say to my mum “Mama maine aap se baat nahin kerni aap ne mujhe apni shadi main invite bhi nahin kia 
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