Well, you have two options here, and you might have to pick one choice out of the following two:
*Choice 1. *
Ignore her and indirectly send her a message that you are not interested in such gatherings, so she should not consistently bother you and make you feel uncomfortable.
*Choice 2. *
Try to bring awareness in her through wisdom that the life she is living is not good for herself and her baby. There are better ways of enjoying life, and you might take her along with yourself to your (morally better) gatherings so that she still enjoys a company of a good friend.
Choice* 1*** is an easy way out for yourself. You have nothing to lose.
Choice **2** might consume a bit of your time and energy, but would save lives of at least two people from moving in a wrong direction, a woman and her baby. This choice might only be good when you see a potential in that person and a sincere will to correct her mistakes and bad habits in life. This choice would inshaAllah bring along blessings for you because our Lord loves and guides the one who loves and guides HIS creations.
I might be totally wrong. Only Allah (swt) knows BEST!
STP, Ive been doing number one...simply ignoring her. She sent me a message today saying it was so mean of me to stand her up. To be honest, Im a little mad at her for pushing this whole clubbing thing with me all the time and also for not being sympathetic about me not being able to go out because my nani was in the hospital. She passed away the next day. I mean, would any of you get irritated with your friend if they couldnt come clubbing with you because their grandmother was in a hospice fighting for her life?
I would love to show her my friends and Ive already introduced her to my family. My friends and family are all the same...a little on the conservative side. I was hoping she would kind of be able to get an idea from meeting my family but kuch asar hi nahin huwa.
It might do her good to be introduced to my friends but I dont think she will like them. She is looking for party buddies and these girls will NOT be partAYing anytime soon! :)
She might surprise me?