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^ Whats the problem then? ask them to do the formalities, no???
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:hinna:
Here’s what I don’t get. I don’t understand why…when girls find themselves in such a situation where the parents refuse to listen…why don’t they just contact the cousin and tell him that “I see you as a brother, I have no interest in marrying you. I don’t want to marry you. I’m being pressured, etc.” I would think that if he has any self-respect, he’d back out of the rishta. Why don’t the girls do that? Is it due to fear of upsetting relatives? It’s not like it was a first resort…they tried to reason with their parents and that didn’t work.
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True. You need to get in touch with him or communicate with someone that will listen..you are 21, which is young so I understand you are not ready to get into marriage yet, either with your cousin or boyfriend. But for now, you need to get in touch with either your cousin or another family member that would let him know how you feel
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And now to the next problem. My boyfriend cant send a rishta yet. His family is also making issues. N ya we love each other and are sincere.
Well his ma n sis know me n like me :)
it is confusing isn't it???
your mom not showing any interest, even if she does show any interest, BOY side have a problem... and on the same note, the mom and sis of the bf likes you???? confusion confusion... if the problem is for real... shall deal the cousin or any other RISHTA later...
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hahaha
i agree..
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^^ when i was kid, i didn't like the injections and medicine and other things as well, my parents imposed it on me and now i stand healthy, had they given up to my demands saying ok, if you don't like medicine, i shouldn't have it.. then i think i might have been dead by now..
same goes to school and college life, i didn't like it at all, lots of studies compare to hangout with friends was like a nightmare... but was forced and pressurized by parents and i am grateful to them for their unconditional care for me
there are plenty things we don't like yet it is good for us ( as stated in Quran also, there are thing which you don't like but are good for you and there are thing you like but are not good for u), same is the case here, life is not 3 hours bollywood movie...
I am agree 100% with you.
GS forum usually support girls decision.
Her cousin has finished studies, got job.
In my opinion she should go with her parents decision.
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Ya i knw I have even told her that her sister is more important thn me. But it didnt work . :(
And now to the next problem. My boyfriend cant send a rishta yet. His family is also making issues. N ya we love each other and are sincere.
You know the problem is that when ever I try to talk to my mom. She is like tum bohat pachtaho gi n etc. N i dont want to marry my cousin cuz he is around 8 years elder than me. N he was always more like a brother.
He is like your brother, but not your brother. :@:
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Lol, more desi girls with marriage problems. Maybe if you didn't have a bf this wouldn't have been a problem.
Seriously, this problem of dating needs to be curbed it always backfires in the end. Only do it if you know your parents are totally ok with it.
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i dont know why girls are making BFs.
our moral and family values are going down day by day. more girls are just disowning parents in favour of BFs.
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Tell me about it. Boys too but I have heard of mostly girls abandoning their parents for lovers.
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Tell me about it. Boys too but I have heard of mostly girls abandoning their parents for lovers.
But mostly boys leave gf in regards of parents.
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as someone already wrote, your cousin must be "like" your brother to you but he is actually not....he is a na-mehram to you which means you should have been doing purdah with him and also this relationship is marriageable islamically....also if your bf is truly sincere then he would try to convince his parents for atleast an engagement....but that doesn't seem to be the case....infact you seem to be so giving to the relationship, so much so that you seem to be in a fix (meaning you are weighing your parents (who have taught you how to walk, talk, fed you, spent sleepless nights taking care of you, prayed for you and gave you education) and you newly found love in the same balance)while you are being so considerate about him, all I see that you wrote about the boy's efforts is that he cannot marry/get engaged yet as there is issues going on in his family....if there are issues before you are even into his family then the rest you can only imagine.....ofcourse Islamically you are entitled to choose a partner and cannot be forced into marrying out of your will but at the same time Islam has no place for premarital relationships....If the boy can take a quick action as to getting married/engaged then fine....else I would suggest you go with your parents decision and get moving in life and you will never regret in your life....warna aisa na ho ke na ye mila na wo :p