I know what you are going through since my wife is going through the same thing at the time. The difference however is that its not a 19 year old passing those comments but her mamoon who moved to US 4 years ago is against my wife's wish to be a stay at home wife. I have nothing against my wife working but our decision was that when the kids are older and are going to school my wife should work if she wants to. He is visiting Pakistan right now and is trying to work up a storm between my wife and her mother by saying things like she looks so Pakistani by wearing shalwar kameez and being at home all day. why doesn't she work and put her kids in the day care? I mean who in the world is he to come between our decision and complaining it to my mother in law who now is in stress about my wife.
I wear hijab (what does this even have to do with this topic??..but anyways) …I’ve invested a lot of years in my caree …and I will probably never be a housewife…Yeah, it’s a great profession and everything- you know something and you can help thousands of people with…but there are times when it makes me sad to think and to know that I’ll never be to my own children what my own mom was for me- she was ALWAYs there, always watching, and available on the first ring when i needed her. Always had my room clean for me, and lunch packed for me in the morning, and dinner made for me for when I came home from school. Yeah, she’s just a houswife to everyone in the world, but she’s everything and beyond for me, and a role model, that a good part of me regrets that I will probably never be like for my own babies.
My point is the grass is always greener on the other side…be grateful for the part you have, and to fire with what other’s think!
I know what you are going through since my wife is going through the same thing at the time. The difference however is that its not a 19 year old passing those comments but her mamoon who moved to US 4 years ago is against my wife's wish to be a stay at home wife.** I have nothing against my wife working but our decision was that when the kids are older and are going to school my wife should work if she wants to. He is visiting Pakistan right now and is trying to work up a storm between my wife and her mother by saying things like she looks so Pakistani by wearing shalwar kameez and being at home all day. why doesn't she work and put her kids in the day care? **I mean who in the world is he to come between our decision and complaining it to my mother in law who now is in stress about my wife.
Why don't people just mind their own business...really! What an idiot! What mom enjoys putting their babies in day care?!!! stupid.
pakistani girls are just something else , i really dont understand what goes on in their mind . i am not saying they are all like that but a few really have an unrealistic view of life.
above all all that matter is that allah swt is pleased with you , you are a noble women and there is nothing greater in this world than raising kids that will be able to later contribute positively to this world and be good muslims.
in my eyes you are a great women and may allah swt bless u even more.
all girls are a bit unrealistic before marriage i am sure after she is married she may understand life a bit more.
As for hijab, covering your head is part of muslim women’s aura, read the meaning of word “khimar” in Quran. (I’m not saying those who don’t cover hair are going to hell)
Mods, please close this thread, it’s gone well off topic.
Hareem, I agree with what others have already said, she is young and naive .. I was the same at her age and even in my mid 20's. Later my image changed and now I am in the same position .. at home with kids :-D and love every minute of it.
I also have to say, if ppl dont know u, u give a consersative kind of impression, but when ppl get to know ur real self, u are such a nice and geninue person, that one cant help but love.
No, I actually don't. I see a lot of different people inflicting suffering, not just Muslims who have completely gone off of true Islam. Past two decades? China and it's violations against Tibet. The death squads in South America. Oklahoma City. The problems in Northern Ireland and on and on and on. And yes, a lot of Muslims who have been led astray are on this list. But they're not the only ones.
Yeah. Sorry Hareem for veering so badly off topic. But this once, I couldn't help it.
Don't worry about your niece. Like everybody has said, she is is young and her view on things will likely change as she gets older and sees a little bit more of the world.
people are hilarious!