Just on this 1st of July, a Pakistani family moved in next door to us. A couple in their mid 30s with two kids. The first week went well, the aunty (she prefers I call her by her first name) came over almost every day. I even cooked for them the first day while she was putting her kitchen together. Every time hubby and I step out to do something, she is always standing in her window waving at us. She is so damn nosy. This is really starting to bother me. I’m too nice of a person to say something rude, but I’m tired of her calling me every two seconds. Ever since they moved in she comes over exactly at 5, right when I’m getting ready to take a nap. I’ve had it, this woman is going on my ignore list.. What should I do to get the message through her? Leave me the hell alone.
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you should've kept the limits at first :)
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huh? what limits? I've known the couple for what ten days now? out of all those ten days I went over once. lemme ask you, how many times will you go over your neighbors, if they've only come to see you once and you hardly know them?
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i think u'll have to be straight forward with that aunty before it really makes life hell for u.....this might sound rude but dont answer the door at 5 when its ur nap time....when she says sth tell her that u nap at that hr....if she is sensible enough she'll understand...
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once or maybe none (id wait for a while longer)
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Impulse she only did what generally all good neighbors do by simply welcoming them to the area and saying hi.
Mahnoor i know where ya coming from, i guess what you should do is simply be courteous and polite and tell the lady that you appreciate she's your neighbor and all but that you don't really appreciate her coming over to your place everyday, she being an adult should understand.
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I'm sorry, I won't wave at you anymore:(
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I agree with Orpheus....
Mahnoor you did what most good neighbors do when welcoming someone to the neighborhood.
She is probably just looking forward to making new friends. I know it can be quite annoying but you have to be careful with what you say to her. Afterall...she is your neighbor and you dont want to have bad relations with her.
How about you stop opening the door. that might give her the hint. Perhaps tell her that 5 o'clock is your nap time?
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i agree with the "dont open the door at 5"...when she asks why u didnt open it.....tell her thats ur nap time and u were sleeping. work your way round things in this way and she will get the message :)
some people said that tell her directly that you dont like it....DONT do this...cuz she'll get offended.
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If I open the door in my PJs half asleep, shouldnt she get the message? I'm 12 years younger than her, beside the fact we are both married we have nothing in common. I don't mind being friendly or being friends with her but there is a limit to everything.
sara I don't mind having you as a neighbor even if you come over every day. :)
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Send her a PM. She is on your ignore list, you are not on her list. So your message will get through but her message will be returned with an error.
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sara I don't mind having you as a neighbor even if you come over every day. :)
being friendly is one thing...being friends with your neighbor is totally different. NEVER be friends with a neighbor. It leads to nothing but trouble and then you have to live with that "trouble" for a long time.
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I'm on a roll, Angel is the fourth person to have agreed with what i have said here today.
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dont get too excited....your just having a good day. :D
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After having to babysit her kids for three hours, trust me I m so full of it right now.
Ladies, another issue here is that she expects me to watch her kids, well today was the first day and I swear I have not seen such stubborn and ill mannered kids in my life. Kids will be kids I don't blame them, but I can not have this happen again. Its only the 2nd week and I've had it.
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Ladies, another issue here is that she expects me to watch her kids, well today was the first day and I swear I have not seen such stubborn and ill mannered kids in my life. Kids will be kids I don't blame them, but I can not have this happen again. Its only the 2nd week and I've had it.
oooooo thats a big no-no. i feel for ya!
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I agree with AE, babysitting after just only a fortnite is off the hook, your neighbor is taking liberties.
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Introduce her to GupShup and tell her your user name.
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lol...excellent idea!
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Ladies, another issue here is that she expects me to watch her kids, well today was the first day and I swear I have not seen such stubborn and ill mannered kids in my life. Kids will be kids I don't blame them, but I can not have this happen again. Its only the 2nd week and I've had it.
Ok no that's wrong.. are u the only desi in the neighborhood? has she recently arrived from Pakistan? Maybe shes' lonely?