My MIL

[sweetNsour]

Re: My MIL

@stoppit

Well if that’s the case, you can look forward to the rest of your life being the same. Of course he’s going to support you behind closed doors so to speak. It’s convenient for him that they blame you. At some point he needs to put his foot down and put people in their place. Although it depends on his character. Some people are too soft and their words are not taken seriously. But one word from a strong personality is all it takes.

But I’m not saying that you should tell him or encourage him to do this. It has to come from himself.

I think that’s what a woman needs the most – her husband’s support. And Allhumd, Spiral has it. Doesn’t matter if it is behind closed doors or not. As it is, how many husbands do you know who actually take a stand for their wives especially in front of their parents? Even if they say something without getting argumentative, it still gives off the wrong vibe. And ultimately, parents start assuming the worst (e.g. oh the DIL has completely taken our son away, blah blah blah) – which is what the husband wants to avoid.

I mean, I understand what you are trying to say, and it makes total sense, but I am just wondering, how often does it happen? I would just be happy that I know my husband supports me, even if he is not able to say anything to his parents. Not a lot of husbands even notice the unfairness that their wives have to go through at times. So at least, that’s a big step ahead. Just my two cents.