My MIL

[terebina786]

Re: My MIL

@stoppit

Well if that’s the case, you can look forward to the rest of your life being the same. Of course he’s going to support you behind closed doors so to speak. It’s convenient for him that they blame you. At some point he needs to put his foot down and put people in their place. Although it depends on his character. Some people are too soft and their words are not taken seriously. But one word from a strong personality is all it takes.

But I’m not saying that you should tell him or encourage him to do this. It has to come from himself.

I agree with this. You can’t make him do anything and you shouldn’t because he might resent you later. My advice would be kill 'em with kindness. You can’t change how people are, you can only change your reaction to them. I don’t know why DILs strive so hard to be liked by their MIL. Who cares? So long as your husband loves you, your MIL has to deal with it.

My future MIL is civl to me but I know deep down she doesn’t like me and lord only knows what she tells my bf but I don’t care. I’m nice to her, she has no ammo on me.

Side note: I have no issue being the “Evil Amreekan (or in my case Canadian) bahu”. I’d rather let it be known who runs sh*t than be trampled over by everyone - MIL included. There I said it LOL.