Fingirl, i understand your hurt and i know how it feels to be lied to again and again. But at the same time, as soon as he tries to change you dont accept or acknowledge him. Why did you refuse the idea of living separately when he visited the third time? You should really look at countless opportunities that youve deliberately missed.
You should let go of the hurt youve felt during your engagement, and try to change yourself a little bit. Maybe you feel guilty for not listening to your parents and now subconsiously your trying to break the tie. Maybe. I dont know.
djmi...i agree i don't accept his words now coz based on my experience with him, they're only wordss. Initially, and even till our last fight i would feel bad for a day or so, and then move on. But something or the other would happen that would depress me.
May be i am too thick, i just want to understand for how long it is okay for a husband to lie as long as he says sorry for it?
I am exactly trying to look at my mistakes....i agree there are instances where i feel i could have remained quiet and swallowed in the fire.
I may be the one finally breaking off the relationship, though i am still confused and in my heart want to give it another chance....but what about the small and big blows that he has made to our relationship....isn't he accountable for the relationship, for less than half of what i am?