Re: My marriage.....
Good Grief. Get the divorce already. You are taking victimization to the extreme here. I agree with Sadzz you got issues. She didn't say that but she implied it.
And woman, just to make this clear, if I ever have to clear it with my future wife when I want to go to my sister's place for dinner, she better be packing her bags after that statement. You are effectively asking your husband to choose you over his own blood. Well done on making an existing situation much worse.