Re: My marriage.....
have you spoken to him?
try talking to him; and if he isn't receptive at first, keep trying.
Secondly, not sure if this is the same case, but money issues, you need to put behind you. You can walk into a marriage expecting stability in financial terms, but not every woman gets that and not every man can offer it NOW. You support him and help him out, and he'll get the income. Economies are rough, and its difficult for people to even get a job these days. As for all the control his parents have over his finances, just deal with it for the time being, and consider that he'll eventually grow out of it. HE has to come to a realization that HE needs to manage his own money. If you keep directly pointing it out to him, its just going to frustrate him more. Accept the situation as it is. If you want pocket money, go get a job. Also, try to get out of the house - get a hobby, something anything that occupies your time.
And have a serious discussion with your husband and make it clear to him that you DO NOT want this to go towards a divorce, but that BOTH of you need to work together to make sure it doesn't go down that road.
He clearly is not ready to kick you out of the house, at this point. So just play your cards right.