I have been missing my first love. There is NO WAY I can be with him ever but I still feel the urge to reconnect with him. I dont do it. However, I know that I am wasting my time even by bringing him up here. The loss was so painful and I am not fully recovered. He turned out to be any other guy who provided me assurity of marriage being in the family. After the incident, I don’t trust my decision of finding myself a husband so I left it up to my family. The final decision will be mine though. I put him above myself and all of my dreams were shattered. The wounds never go away as I try to be as normal as possible. I read Quran and pray for myself but it doesn’t help me to the point where I can forget him. I will blame myself for going bawal gardh on a guy because no person is worth going crazy for. Extreme level of anything is always unhealthy and painful. I have lost him and still can’t cope up with the loss but I try to stay very happy in life. I hope this feeling of losing him fades away when I get married one day. I am not going to tell my husband about him because present and future should be the concern. My heart bleeds for him even he treated me unfairly. I gave this authority to him myself even I had men after me. Can you really get out of the phase where you have lost something beyond special even it might not existed in reality because of the person’s two faced life. My heart has been in severe pain from the time he has been gone. Unnecessary stress can really make me look old and I wanna look young forever!!!
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What's the main idea of your post ?
Maybe you need to start blogging.
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Can you get out of the phase of losing someone beyond special?
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Well babe..i can imagine what ya went through. But as a fella i tell ya these experiences in life teaches us and shines us as an individual. Nobody can replace the first love for sure. I still miss my ex-girlfriend and wish and pray best for her. Though afta 6 years in relationship it is not easy to forget. But ya know life has to go on eh. Things doesn't stay same..ya'll eventually find someone more caring and loving then that person.
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so what happened to the bomb trigger??
did he find a better shurli??
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For a (seedhi saadhi) larki, this may live with you for life, even after marriage..unless you find such a loving husband and you may forget him for a while, but I can see an uphill battle to win your love for your future husband. I hope he will have a lot of patience.
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Can you get out of the phase of losing someone beyond special?
Yes.If you decide that is what you really want & don't indulge yourself in self-pity you will get out of that phase.
Don't dwell on the past but learn from it.
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BSB: Please dont waste your time in remembering your first love. I hope you will get good spouse in future. Just be yourself. :)
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It seems impossible to forget someone special.............. but nothing is impossible in this world....... you just need a strong will power............ Life is too precious to waste it on people who ditch you or hurt you...........
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Time is a great healer, so try not to stress about it too much.
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What's the main idea of your post ? Maybe you need to start blogging.
exactly what people used to say to nadz in the beginning.
then all got used to it and fell for her threads. and continue to do so.
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vechari bumbshall :(
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Well babe..i can imagine what ya went through. But as a fella i tell ya these experiences in life teaches us and shines us as an individual. Nobody can replace the first love for sure. I still miss my ex-girlfriend and wish and pray best for her. Though afta 6 years in relationship it is not easy to forget. But ya know life has to go on eh. Things doesn't stay same..ya'll eventually find someone more caring and loving then that person.
This has been itching away at me and I REALLY need to point it out. *YOU. It's spelled Y-O-U.
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^ YA'll need to embrace diversityy!!
@ as for u bombshell what little princess said.
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@ shurli
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I don't think that I can share my concerns here. Please don't reply to my threads as they are really stupid and retarded. Goodbye Gupshup
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Na dil tu chota kar baliyeh
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If your cousin neither respects nor wants to be with you.....then he's not the one. His involvement in your life brought you more grief than happiness. Think of it as a blessing in disguise because cousin marriages can be tricky business where family ties can turn sour . You think it's "love," but it's not.....and you won't realize this until much later down the road. Been there, done that. And you shouldn't marry someone for the sole purpose of getting over an ex. Time does decrease the intensity of the pain, but it also depends upon your willpower. When you make the firm decision to move on from him....then don't wallow in self-pity or dwell on him...instead redirect your thoughts in a different direction. You've opened up several threads about marriage and while there's nothing wrong with that being among your goals, it almost seems like you're preoccupied by it. By all means, pursue that goal...but engage in other activities as well.....you'd be surprised at the difference it'll make in you (clarity/peace of mind, feeling stronger, etc).
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If your cousin neither respects nor wants to be with you.....then he's not the one. His involvement in your life brought you more grief than happiness. Think of it as a blessing in disguise because cousin marriages can be tricky business where family ties can turn sour . You think it's "love," but it's not.....and you won't realize this until much later down the road. Been there, done that. And you shouldn't marry someone for the sole purpose of getting over an ex. Time does decrease the intensity of the pain, but it also depends upon your willpower. When you make the firm decision to move on from him....then don't wallow in self-pity or dwell on him...instead redirect your thoughts in a different direction. You've opened up several threads about marriage and while there's nothing wrong with that being among your goals, it almost seems like you're preoccupied by it. By all means, pursue that goal...but engage in other activities as well.....you'd be surprised at the difference it'll make in you (clarity/peace of mind, feeling stronger, etc).
Just pray for me that may Allah give his place to someone else in my heart. I have miserably failed in forgetting him completely but I have moved on with my life. He was my first love so I made him special. InshAllah, I will be ok but I do miss him once in a while. I hope the feeling fades away .
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so what happened to the bomb trigger??
did he find a better shurli??
I don't understand your post.