my husband is behaving like a jerk, what do i do?

[Southie]

Re: my husband is behaving like a jerk, what do i do?

@redvelvet

Maybe I’m wrong…but if it makes him this uncomfortable, drop the matter. Get birthday boy a gift and give it to one of your friends, so that she can give it to him on your behalf; this will compensate for you not attending the party.. It won’t be the end of the world.

Also, if you fear that your friends will talk about how your husband is jealous and didn’t want you to attend the party…then that implies that it’s because you’ve told your friends that your husband feels jealous or has issues. I don’t think it helps matters to have your friends think ill of your husband/marriage…because this can influence the way they behave toward him if he’s also a part of their social circle…and it can lead to the spread of “talk/gossip” about your marriage. It’s something to think about. If you’ve only one male friend, you’ve also only one husband and it’s him that you live with.

Now it would be a more serious issue if your husband is like this with any male you interact with…such as a coworker, cousin, etc. It’s easier said than done I admit…but sometimes compromising/giving in…can lead to more flexibility/trust down the road and give you more leverage in discussing things with the other person.

Off topic. How do you know so much. You should write a book on relationships. Nice post.