Asalam-Alaikum sister,
I hope you¡¦re in the best of health and Imaan. First of all I would like to say that masah-Allah by wearing the hijab (head scarf) you have fulfilled one of the essential commands by Allah (swt). I can understand how much courage is needed to fulfill this fard. May Allah reward you for your action and grant you a place in Jannah insha-Allah.
I understand that you are facing a difficult time; your family does not approve of you wearing a head scarf, but remember this is a test by Allah (swt) and He only tests the ones He loves. Every Muslim is aware of the fact that Allah (swt) would never put burden on any individual more than he/she can take.
Sister you need to have deep faith in Allah (swt), and remain steadfast. The following paragraphs are taken from the book ¡¥The Ideal Muslimah¡¦, ¡¥It is deep faith which increases the character of a Muslim woman in strength, understanding and maturity, so that she sees life as it really is, which is place of testing whose result will be soon on the day which will undoubtedly come:
ƒæ Did you then think that We have created you in jest, and that you would not be brought back to Us (for account)? ( Qur¡¦an 23:115)
ƒæ Blessed is He in Whose hands is Dominion; and He over all things has Power ¡V He Who created Death and Life, that He may try which of you is best in deed; and He is the Exalted in Might, Oft-Forgiving ( Qur¡¦an 67:1-2)
No doubt the true Muslim woman, when she ponders the meaning of these Ayat (Verses), would think about the crucial Day and would turn to her Rabb in obedience, repentance and gratitude, seeking to do as many righteous deeds as she is able, in preparation for the hereafter¡¦.
Sister you need to speak to your husband and present him with Ayats and hadiths on wearing a head scarf. Provide evidence and explain to him the importance of wearing a hijab which you should be able to get from many Islamic books. Insha-Allah, if Allah wills your husband will understand and will approve of it but if he doesn¡¦t, you should not be disheartened.
You may feel the whole world is against you but remember that Allah Almighty, Who created the heavens and the earth and all that¡¦s within it, is on your side. You will need to be strong in order to pass this test, pray to Allah (swt) that He gives you strength to remain on the right path and also to strengthen your Imaan.
You may want to look at people who are in worse position than you are. Take for example the converted Muslims, you can imagine what they have to go through as they come to Islam from a totally different religion. Imagine how hard it must be for them. There are many cases where girls are prevented to cover themselves, many of their families break ties with the one who converted and they have no one except Allah (swt).
There are many other examples, especially in some Muslim countries where it is illegal for women to cover up. In many places people are tortured for practicing their religion. May Allah give them all strength (Ameen). By looking at such examples and many others, you may feel that alhamdo-lilla after all your test is not as difficult.
At the end of the day you know that you are walking on the right path, the path that Allah (swt) has commanded Muslims to walk on and the path that our prophet Muhmmed (saw) has shown us, after going through so much hardship in order for us to live content lives and go to Jannah (Insha-Allah).
This is a good time and a good opportunity for you to do dawa, and call people to Islam. It is not going to be easy at all as Jannah (heaven) is surrounded by hardship, many difficulties and tests (Hadith). BUT also Allah does not leave His people on their own, Allah (swt) said, ¡¥If my people come walking to me, I will go running to them¡¦, subhan-Allah! There are many hadiths where Allah (swt) helped His peoples and I can go on writing but due to other responsibilities, I have to stop.
Before going I would like to make another point, it is fard for a woman to listen to her husband and obey him but that is only if he obeys Allah (swt). You do not have to listen to your husband if he¡¦s asking you to commit haram actions. There is absolutely no way that anyone can you stop from wearing a hijab. Under no circumstances, a woman is allowed to go out uncovered, unless covering is a threat to her life as it may have been for some sisters after the 9/11 incident in America.
I hope that what I have written has been helpful. Insha-Allah I pray that Allah guides your husband and family and they understand. May Allah strengthen your Imaan and help you to walk on the righteous path (ameen).
Allah Hafiz
espically written by A Muslimah (UK)
i think Faisal Bhai has given you the best advice thus far in this thread. Would it be possible for you to ask someone you trust within the Muslim community, say some well-spoken scholar or maybe someone who helps married couples with domestic situations, to speak to your husband? Is there anyone in his family whom he would listen to - an older brother, or an elder relative who would be willing to listen to you and try to help both of you out?
i pray things work out between both of you Insha’Allah.