Woah! Is that really you Sara? 
ok guys this might be werid but i deperatly need help!! i have been reading this fourm for quite a while nd need some adivce from here of what to do now...
i have been engaged for 6 months now.. so on fri i decided to ask my fiance for his e-mail pwd nd he started making excuses how he wud tell me over the phone y he cant give it to me.. i got mad at him nd told him not to talk to me nd hes like ok let me kno when u wana talk! well this really hurt me nd made me cryy nd i started thinking why he wudnt give it to me.. i was soo sure he wudnt call me the next day cuz i wud ask again but the situation made him call me.. the next day was Valentine's Day nd i sent him chocolates so he called to thank me. well i asked again nd he kept going on how he want to sort things out nd dan he'll give it to me (hello do i look stupid.. i know u want to delet something).. i kept asking and finally gave up but it made me think alot so i textd him afterward saying how i cant go on wit my life he cant tell me this small things! well the next morning he called me ready to give me his pwd nd told me dat he never got a chance to change anything cuz his families were over (which i do believe).. well me being me i checked his acct nd didnt really find anything on the inbox but alot of sent mails that he wrote to grls..
this one mail really got to me and it sed " i miss u soo much and i cant wait to hear ur voice. i am always waiting for ur calls but u never have time to call. i didnt love you but i fell in love with u and i miss u so much. ur last e-mail made me cry and i cant wait for ur reply. plez come to me and rem that u r only mine" i read another e-mail of him sending to her nd he basically used another name instead of his.. this e-mail was sent reently so its liek him writing while being engaged to me!
what should i do after this? one side of me wants to belive that dats not him writing the e-mail but the other side of me is like if hes like this right .. after marriage he wud be doing this nd i wud never kno.. please HELP!
sorry for the long essay!
Lets try another route to solve this problem. :)
Strawberry - tell us the positive things about your fiance and what makes you want to marry him?
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
^ He might have several positive points. He may even be outwardly charming. But sometimes the few negative qualities in a person can be so overwhelming that they can outweigh the positive. This guy has issues with commitment and that's serious enough to warrant further investigating the situation and reconsidering the proposal. InshaAllah after the dad talks with the guy's parents, things will fall into place.
But sometimes the few negative qualities in a person can be so overwhelming that they can outweigh the positive.
That info' is enough for me to say there are plenty more gorillas in the jungle! Lol! :)
Lets try another route to solve this problem. :)
Strawberry - tell us the positive things about your fiance and what makes you want to marry him?
yehh thats what is making me think twice abt this suitation.
POSITIVE
hes seems like an hardworker
he loves kids
he helps ALOT arnd the house
i would have had the best inlaws if i married him
hes very chill.. never stopped me from anything
move here to live wit me
NEG
he talks to alot of grls.. random grls
we are 2 diff pple..
did some stuff in the past which made me suspicious
felt like i was never that grl who was close to him
cheated on me by doing this!
u kno i cant grantee that he wunt do it again. i tried my best to be the dat grl for him but got nothin in return. i kno we cud have so good togather but he messed it up for himself!
and on top that i duno y i feel badd even tho its his fault. i feel bad for what his parents will have to go thru!
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
^ You feel bad because you're a good person with family values that doesnt want to hurt a soul.
You didnt do anything though. You did what your parents asked you to do and were a good daughter. Now, let them take care of this whole situation.
Im very glad you told your parents and even more glad to know that your father took you seriously.
Woah! Is that really you Sara? :)
dont tell me u dont kno wmuppet babies :)
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
Not a big deal that you asked his password .. i mean you guys are about to spend the rest of your lives together. And wow . ASK him whats up with that ...he shoulldnt commit himself to anyone if he isnt over this other girl. Its as simple as that.
yehh thats what is making me think twice abt this suitation.
POSITIVE hes seems like an hardworker he loves kids he helps ALOT arnd the house i would have had the best inlaws if i married him hes very chill.. never stopped me from anything move here to live wit me
NEG he talks to alot of grls.. random grls we are 2 diff pple.. did some stuff in the past which made me suspicious felt like i was never that grl who was close to him cheated on me by doing this!
u kno i cant grantee that he wunt do it again. i tried my best to be the dat grl for him but got nothin in return. i kno we cud have so good togather but he messed it up for himself!
and on top that i duno y i feel badd even tho its his fault. i feel bad for what his parents will have to go thru!
Dont feel bad. I only feel bad for you
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
ok i ve been a silent reader of this thread and vent heard from strawbery for long.. so thoguht wud put in a word.
hey strawberry u ve every rite to ask and knw ur husbands email account passwords and bank account ones to so dont let anyone tel u toherwise.
and i hope ur doin fine and ve made the rite decision by nw. gudluck!hope alls well wid u
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
WOW are you freakin kidding me? Are you seriously that dumb?
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
I cant believe some of you women are calling it "fooling around" and how she should still even consider this man..
GET OUT....trust me!!!!!
It might be hard now but you will realize later on it was the wise thing to do. Even if he stops "fooling around" you will never trust him. Its better to be alone now then to face a whole life worrying about when he is gonna start "fooling around" agian. And I garuntee you it will happen again.
LEAAVE HIM LEEEAAAVE HIMMM LEAVE HIMM!!! You deserve so much beter.
Re: my fiance is cheating on me??
Umm, matter was resolved. Will open it back up if strawberry returns and insists.