thanks redvelvet!
so im not making this into a big deal right?
im srry if i sed anything wrong in my pervious posts.. it just got me really heated how some of u think becuz dats how he probably thinks too!
the pwd issue is bothering me becuz if he never gave it to me.. i wud have probably never found out nd he wud have been someone to me that hes not. funny thing is he knows i kno his facebook pwd nd i never went on it cuz it didnt matter but i did check today.. nd it has NOTHING but guess wat all the grls he talk to secretly are from fb. he e-mails them instead of writing on their wall so i wudnt find out. how cleaver!
Dear Sweet Strawberry, my heart goes out to you and your present predicament. I really hope that you can see that you are:
(1) suspicious of this guy for good reason (trust your gut instinct)
(2) unhappy with him at a very deep level even though you wanted to make this rishta work
(3) have found proof of his bad niyat towards you - he has no respect for you being an engaged man he should not be contacting girls with lovey dovey emails
(4) attractive to him for your greencard (as soon as he hits the USA, he could spend 1 or 2 or more happy years with you to qualify for his own green card then bugger off to Pak and find a new Dulhan to bring to the US (Lots of girls have had this happen to them)).
(5) engaged to an immature guy
(6) too scared to break it off for fear of your parents, your own reputation (you seriously don't have to worry about this - a divorce is a hundred times worse than broken engagements and there are many divorced girls who re-marry - so a broken engagement is easier to bounce back from)
You had EVERY right to ask for his password. He obviously deleted his inbox emails and was too dumb to delete his 'sent emails'. Seriously find a nice guy in the US yaar, yeh Pakistan se rishta lanaa is such a bad idea unless you really fall in love with someone and KNOW them. I am stereotyping but in the UK where I live so many girls have gotten burnt by bringing someone from back home. AND BEFORE ANYONE JUMPS DOWN MY THROAT - yes there are many happy examples of arranged UK/US/pakistani wedding - but in my experience few and far between...
Strawberry, be rational, be calm, take your time, gather evidence, speak to your mom again and again... remember she is as scared as you are... Stand your ground sister, we are all here for you (even the people telling you off for asking for his password want you to be happy and at peace deep down) and let us know what happened.
xx
E.