My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work

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I need help!. I m presently working part time and going to school, I got engaged few months back and my fiance doesn’t want to work.
He really dislikes it and we often stop talking b’cuz of this issue and this time he said he just cant accept the fact that his wife to be is working or has ever worked…
I work at a store so I could understand the reason why he doesnt like it and i don’t like working personally but my problem is my family financial situation is not very sound which I have tried to explain to him in different ways but he just cant get it I dont need any help regarding him as I love him a lot, But i want you to please suggest me any home based job where I wouldnt have to go out where i can stay home and work online as there are many people i heard who work online. Please Please if you know any authentic place for which i can work from home do let me know
I would be thankful I dont want to make my fiance angry anrmore and i also want to support my family i cant sit at home when my family needs me Or atleast i can take care of my expenses by working.

thank you
and looking forward to your replies

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Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work

Tell him to grow a pair and that we don't live in the middle ages.. If you need money, you need money.

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your love is one sided while fiance demands are strange. doesnt he understand your financial situation?

if he is complaining on your earning then what will happen in future when you become his wife.

in my opinion, you should let your parents know the situation and they will definitely do something for you.

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have you asked him if he can provide you (your family) with the financial support instead so you will not have to work ?

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Tell him you'll quit working the minute he starts to provide for you. Before that, its unreasonable to ask a woman to just drop what she is doing and stay home.

As for home based jobs...I dont know of any.

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your family should come first and then fiance...you family needs you now so you should help them.

anyhow simply ask him "fair enough i wont work but then you provide me the money for my family".

as for working from home you could give tutions, open day care kinda thing, or just google working from home there are some jobs.

one last final advice i will give is that you are getting education to explore your self and that is majorly by working. so you should be clear that you will work whenever you will need it. good luck

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Even if you stop working, or find a work from home job... if the gentleman can not accept that his wife to be 'has ever worked' then one of you two needs to invent a time machine.

You need to explain the situation to him, very plainly...you cant change the fact that you worked in the past, you have to work to try and help with school expenses, and that you would rather stop working as well, and dont intend to after getting married. if he does not understand, then there are bigger issues around control that only you can determine if that is something for you.

Now to answer your question, I dont know of many companies that hire general resources myself, plus I dont know where you are or your skill set, experience etc. you could look at things like elance for project joobs, also translation directory pays people to translate. There are some companies which have their customer service people work remotely, i believe jetblue was doing it at one time and there is a company which is a remote admin i.e. you support a bunch of executives as their admin asst, arranging flights, logistics, calendars etc. These are not easy to get from what I know.

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My family definately comes first but he just cant accept it that i work he is very possessive he said that whatever money you need I will give you but u dont work but since i am not married to him yet i find it odd to take money from him.
we have been discussing this issue for quite a long and now he just doesnt seem to tolerate it anymore also since he lives in Pakistan and I live Abroad it makes him more angry that when he comes home i go to work so even once he told me that you cant leave job dont leave it but just dont mention anything about your work that how tired you got or what time you got home i tried that but since our timing doesnt match this issue comes up again and again and now he has completely stopped talking with me hence i really need to do something
please dont give me advices on my relationship with him i know him for years and i cant discuss it with my family since at first they didnt approve of this proposal we have been together for like 6 years now My family cant do anything about this issue. please for home based jobs provide me with details i know on google i can find many different websites but its not safe out there.
thank you all for listening and advising.

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First of all send an application to the authority that controls everything. Dial 222 [http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/484876-dial-222-and-get-all-your-problems-solved-its-freee.html

S](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/484876-dial-222-and-get-all-your-problems-solved-its-freee.html)ay a prayer that may Allah (swt) guide you and your spouse towards the decision that is good for both of you, because your and his heart is in control of Allah (swt). You would see that Allah (swt) would create circumstances that would make it easy for you to work at home and also your spouse would be convinced that he needs to work.

Of course, praying doesn’t mean that you don’t have to try to figure out and solve the problem yourself, but it is our belief that without sincere consistent prayers we can’t achieve a complete success in anything, no matter how much we try. Through prayers we humbly accept in front of Allah (swt), that HE deserves our FIRST attention whenever we face a trouble and need help. That our hard work, wisdom and efforts are meaningless if HE doesn’t put barakah in them, that HE is the only ONE who can bless us with the wisdom and strength to be able to make the right decision at the right time. That no one can convince anyone regarding any matter unless Allah (Swt) soften’s their heart for each other.

After prayers, you would inshaAllah feel a lot better, confident and motivated because the GREATEST of All is with you. Then take opinions of the experts. If you have a scholar in your area, he would be able to guide you further because those people whose most of the time is spent in learning and teaching Quran and Hadith have more wisdom than below average people like us online.

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The guy is being difficult. Try to look for a different job while working to establish some small home based business for yourself. What skills do you have? You can do baby sitting and pet sitting, offer some classes (like cooking, computers, tutions), start catering business, etc. (I am sorry I don't know anything about the business laws of the place where you live). You can also look for data entry jobs which can be done online. Try to contact market research companies. They always need girls to conduct researches, do mystery shopping etc. But do ask for permission from your fiance for whatever you decide. Its obvious he will be difficult in everything you decide to do.

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I m actually interested in data entry jobs and i have been searching online though cant find any authentic web. if any of you guys are into data entry jobs do let me know! The guy is difficult but thats how he is, and I pray that everything works out well between the two of us Insha Allah its great to see all the responses thank you guys and i will definately take the advice and pray hard, I also tried some of the websites suggested above like bluejet translator or elance however its not easy to get in !I will google more about elance....for data entry jobs please keep me posted!

thank you
Good night :)

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should this be in career or all view?? :hmmm:

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Big Red Flag! Run!

And I am serious.

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Wasnt this discussed before you got engaged? I think both sides need to be very open about all these things and discuss them prior to any commitement.

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Were you the one who pushed your parents to accept this proposal? I don't see why/how people get themselves engaged to/involved with people who hold views so different from their own and then complain about it afterwards. I'm not sure if this applies to you in particular but I've seen other threads similar to this on GS :/

This thread shouldn't be in Life1.

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:k: this !

if he is not able to understand your problems now most likely he will never understand your problems in future too. Really such a man/woman is not worth it.

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If he has stopped talking to you completely that is fine . You stop contacting him , if he calls you first then explain to him one more time to grow up and deal with the fact that his fiancee works to help her parents. He should respect this , he should not raise hell about it.
As far working from home. It is a dream job for everyone in this world that is why there are so many scams out there.
Only few professions allow working from home.
I have seen people work from home this way:
1. They make chapaties , samosay , nihari , biryani , pakoray , jalaibian etc and sell through their local desi stores and share the profit
2. Desi aunties are getting fat at a faster rate so they need someone to do alterations to their expensive clothes/dresses or make new custom made dresses for them. There is a high demand for this skill and lot of money for right person.
3. There is high demand for teaching quran to desi kids and even adults people are minting money doing that.

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:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

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most of what I would say has been mentioned......

how about catering from home?
cake making/decorating?
sewing?

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QFT.

You can't convince him now, and you won't be able to convince him after you get married and use your "charms" on him. If he is this much adamant, then he will remain adamant forever about you working. If he can't understand the predicament you're going through how do you expect him to understand everything you will be going through once you get married? This is just an engagement, not a marriage. You can't take anyone's money if you're not married to him, no matter how much the man thinks it's ok, and later on, trust me, you will receive taanay that "I supported your parents with my money therefore you have to obey me". Are you honestly ready to go through hearing that day in and day out?