Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
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Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
What a control freak!!
the next thing he might say dont breathe, you are using too much oxygen
he dislikes a wife who has ever worked so how is he accepting you?
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
the real question is how is she accepting him?
What a control freak!!
the next thing he might say dont breathe, you are using too much oxygen
he dislikes a wife who has ever worked so how is he accepting you?
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
the way he has acted about your job despite knowing that you were working before you guys got engaged and sepcially his reaction that his future wife should not have ever worked, i am afraid that he wont even be happy with you doing a home based job. You better discuss this with him in open words and ask him what else he may want you to do.
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
the real question is how is she accepting him?
yeah, beats me!!!
And also the other way around, if he is so against working women, how did he agree to marry her when he knows she is working. He could have looked for someone who doesnt want to work, forcing someone to sit at home when her family needs her is just plain mean.
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
Um you knew him for 6 years and this never came up? Really?
What an odd situation
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
yeah, beats me!!!
And also the other way around, if he is so against working women, how did he agree to marry her when he knows she is working.
may be he thought (just like girls) that he will be able to change her ....
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^ hmmm maybe...... but people should really get out of this fantasy of changing the other person as it usually doesnt happen
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
My family definately comes first but he just cant accept it that i work he is very possessive he said that whatever money you need I will give you but u dont work but since i am not married to him yet i find it odd to take money from him. we have been discussing this issue for quite a long and now he just doesnt seem to tolerate it anymore also since he lives in Pakistan and I live Abroad it makes him more angry that when he comes home i go to work so even once he told me that you cant leave job dont leave it but just dont mention anything about your work that how tired you got or what time you got home i tried that but since our timing doesnt match this issue comes up again and again and now he has completely stopped talking with me hence i really need to do something please dont give me advices on my relationship with him i know him for years and i cant discuss it with my family since at first they didnt approve of this proposal we have been together for like 6 years now My family cant do anything about this issue. please for home based jobs provide me with details i know on google i can find many different websites but its not safe out there. thank you all for listening and advising.
does he work?
you know what.. if he is offering then send him the list of your expenses and your accont number and take money for a while and lets see how long he can continue to provide..... and in a meantime just dont mention him anything about your job. if you are not comfortable then just dont spend his money and return them later ...
Re: My Fiance doesn’t allow me to work but i need to work
She is his last chance to go abroad , may be. 
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
not a scenario that's likely to lead to happy married life. stop wasting time on him asap.
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
Troll.
Re: My Fiance doesn't allow me to work but i need to work
we have been discussing this issue for quite a long and now he just doesnt seem to tolerate it anymore also since he lives in Pakistan and I live Abroad it makes him more angry that when he comes home i go to work so even once he told me that you cant leave job dont leave it but just dont mention anything about your work that how tired you got or what time you got home i tried that but since our timing doesnt match this issue comes up again and again and now he has completely stopped talking with me hence i really need to do something
Just as i thought. It is NOT your fault if your family is going through tough time. And you are trying to be there for the family which is quiet honorable. Secondly, since he lives in Pakistan or may be grew up in Pakistan..he really needs to be much more understanding that in west things work differently. Men like that are plain chauvinist in my opinion. Least your fiance can do is by understanding of your situation. If he does not, this probably questions your relationship with him. I mean isn't it the most fundemental thing to be understanding and caring toward your partner. Lastly, he is just a "fiance" not your husband who should order you around. Even you know what, no couple should "order" each other what to do. You work together for your marriage. Very sad.
And work from home is very very hard to find though you may try to look for some other office jobs. But in life, nothing is easy. And as Reha said..until you marry him..and if he can afford it...then..you should be happy to quit your job.
Re: My Fiance doesn’t allow me to work but i need to work
“stay home, i will give you all the money you need” 
Ye baatein sunnay mein bohot achi lagti hein…hand him your monthly bills and tell him I need these paid by XYZ date.
Qissa khatam. Dont feel awkward because he doesnt feel awkward telling you to stay home as if you’re already his wife. So if he is sooo ready to be a husband…lets see if he can handle it.
Aap batayein na…
I would say this also because I believe my family comes first - much like the OP. If I was forced to choose between my family and him even before I was married to him…I would let him go. Even if it hurt like a knife.
If he doesnt care how much pain his actions cause you…how much do you really think he loves you?
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he said that whatever money you need I will give you but u dont work but since i am not married to him yet i find it odd to take money from him.
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Yeah and trust me....afterwards he would start resenting you and tell you that you don't need these expenses and you're too materialistic and blah blah. you can be shopping at 99c stores and eat only sale food, and he will say you cost too much.
Guys like him are losers. No offense.