My mum’s reading this book these days and I picked it up and read a few pages and it left me shocked and gobsmacked and horrified and 100 different other emotions because of a few things:
The abusive, monstrous nature of a man, a politician at that. He really was a monster that Mustafa Khar dude - the unspeakable things he did!!
The corruption in Pakistani society - esp the political domain - I mean I knew it was bad, but that bad!!
The lack of a justice system in Pakistan.
The fact that people commonly had extra-marital affairs in those elite classes.
How a woman could fall in love with such a monsterous man and tolerate him for 15 years, and keep silent about the abuse. And have 4 of his kids!!
So who’s read it? I know it’s old, and maybe it’s been discussed lots of times and I’ve missed it.
yeah man, i was surprised its very well-written and leaves you like hooked. but i dont think im going to... its very disturbing for a sensitive person like me. i believe she's now married to nawaz sharif's bro. Any Pakistani woman should read it - a real eye opener.
It describes the lavish lifestyles of the elite class of pakistan during those days, then she describes in detail the political atmosphere coz all the men in her life were in the politics, and how the ******* used to beat her up every day. she actually left her husband to be with mustafa khar who was a renowned womaniser.
excellent book.must read for women with low self esteem. she is a fighter. although she has exaggerated a lot but its extremely well written. this book shud give women strength and the stimuli to fight abuse.currently i think she got married to nawaz shareefs bro.
hmm i wonder why some women are attracted towards men like that (initially) is it the sadistic part of our nature in play here?
i know a lady who openly claims she likes men that are crude and womanizers... eek. she never got married cuz she never was attracted to the nice men that proposed to her...weird.
anyways i will pick that book up....
I dont know, I dont have any 'men issues' but the whole rough and tough image used to appeal to me when I was younger - it is kinda sexy, but beyond that I think it would be hard to live with a man like that, who is insecure, has raging tempers, jealousy problems, believes women are inferior etc etc.
well...she fell out with the publishers (her book was ghost written)..then reconciled with her family and that sister..then secretly married Shahbaz Sharif..an industrial lord ..who already had two wives..I guess somethings go full circle. Mind you she did help several burn victims and wrote that interesting book on edhi as well, and Khar has after many years in the political wilderness rejoined Benazirs PPP once again...
Benazir? she is in exile..runs her party by remote control..her party bagged the most votes in the last elections.
Khar was a nasty character..i think he married for the 9th time or something in 2003 ..but he's sort of calmed down as far as his personal life, i don't think the book deals with the kind of things he was up to in the 1970's..his goons ran wild in Punjab commiting everything from rape to murder with Khars blessing and support.
"but since she was in no condition to resume business and clearly would never be in the future either, she became a liability for her family. Thus when Bilal appeared at her door begging forgiveness, her family members readily handed her back to him. "
^^ from the article zakk gave.
unbelievable. times like these when you start to think maybe stereotypes that blame entire societies arent wrong afterall...