My experience with a divorced lady.

[lambo5688]

Re: My experience with a divorced lady.

@EDAL

^ yeah thanks, I know what you mean. But man I could have also just banged this divorced girl and said “see you later”. But I didn’t since she was Muslim, I said no, let me give her the respect and honor of nikah. I mean I should get credit for that. I went against my whole family, and took her to a mosque and did nikah with her. Gave her triple the mehar that she got before, and paid it all to her. I never wanted to let her feel any less since she was “divorced”. Even she would constantly say “Oh Ahmed, I am divorced and not a virgin, please don’t mind blah blah”.

However, I just have to tell every other guy out there. Don’t do it, why bother if you can easily get a nice pure girl? Let the older more experienced men handle the divorced ladies.

Bro, this is where you are getting it wrong.

Your ex-wife was a horrible wife NOT because she was divorced but because she was a bad person. Her being divorced has NOTHING to do with how she acted with you.

Our Prophet(pbuh) has said that there is nothing wrong with marrying a divorced woman and even said we would be rewarded - so how can you even suggest let alone advice men to not marry divorced women? I know a few guys who have married divorced women and Mashallah they are living a happy life - but what they did was take their time and think it through and made sure the girl is legit.

YOU did not research her background before marrying her. YOU got caught in her sweettalk. I’m sorry, but you got infatuated and rushed into things. If you had done validated her story before marrying her - maybe have gotten your parents involved and had them meet her parents, this wouldn’t have happened to you.