I knew her for 6 months before marrying her, use to take her places . However I made a personal rule to myself that I would never just “use” a Muslim girl and leave her like that. So I then decided that it would be the right thing to do to just marry her. I wanted to give her the honor and respect Islam gives to a woman. As she became very attached to me, and would cry when I was not around.
She was alone in the West, she had no one here. She was living of government support. Just wanted to give her a new life.
**So I get blamed for trying to help out a poor divorced girl? Yeah you are right, I was naive and stupid, just wanted to help some Muslim girl living alone in the West. Won’t do it again. **
**well just as Sadzz said marriage shouldn’t be to help others but when u wanna live with someone. and u were not just helping her u wanna taste her too though legally but u were not totally selfless.
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No she doesn’t, she told me she was glad to be with a guy who knew “what he was doing”. Plus she said she would have thought it odd/ or taken me as a liar if I told her I’d never been with any other girl. She just assumed it. I mean lets see, even though we try to be religious if you are a young guy, nice looking, nice car, slick hair, go off to college, you are going to get girls. Fine ones too. Its almost impossible not too. 90% of the time that is how it is. I know its haram but there is just to much temptation, that’s why our religion tells us to marry when we can afford it.
Yeah she gets a little jealous at times, esp if their really pretty and sees them on facebook. However its like a innocent childish kind of jealously, not an extreme mental torture that I use to feel knowing some man had penetrated the potential future mother of my kids. I mean that just makes you feel violated.
u
ur marriage failed coz u were living with a guilt. u didn’t accept her as is.
So u still flirt with other girls even though u r married second time. now that makes me judge ur character too.
Only guys will understand what I mean, women can never get this. u
yes we women never understand double standards.
I mean I had girlfriends before, and I never cared for a single second about their past, but man wife, wife is totally different thing. She is going to be your kids mother, your grand kids grandmother, she should be pure. Women are a thing of purity, like hidden gems (as the Quran describes women of paradise).
Even in Western culture, a girl who sleeps with diff guys is ridiculed by her peers and looked down upon, while the boy who could get the most girls is idolized by everyone, and boasts about it. That’s how it works, I never said it was fair.
**this doesn’t look good coming from a guy who himself was non-virgin. she slept with her first husband not just any guy. but u admit to hav gf’s b4.
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Well of course, before you marry someone you should always get tested. and yeah Alhamdulliah everything was good, as I was never stupid enough to not be safe.