My experience with a divorced lady.

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Re: My experience with a divorced lady.

@EDAL

I knew her for 6 months before marrying her, use to take her places . However I made a personal rule to myself that I would never just “use” a Muslim girl and leave her like that. So I then decided that it would be the right thing to do to just marry her. I wanted to give her the honor and respect Islam gives to a woman. As she became very attached to me, and would cry when I was not around.

She was alone in the West, she had no one here. She was living of government support. Just wanted to give her a new life.

So I get blamed for trying to help out a poor divorced girl? Yeah you are right, I was naive and stupid, just wanted to help some Muslim girl living alone in the West. Won’t do it again.

No she doesn’t, she told me she was glad to be with a guy who knew “what he was doing”. Plus she said she would have thought it odd/ or taken me as a liar if I told her I’d never been with any other girl. She just assumed it. I mean lets see, even though we try to be religious if you are a young guy, nice looking, nice car, slick hair, go off to college, you are going to get girls. Fine ones too. Its almost impossible not too. 90% of the time that is how it is. I know its haram but there is just to much temptation, that’s why our religion tells us to marry when we can afford it.

Yeah she gets a little jealous at times, esp if their really pretty and sees them on facebook. However its like a innocent childish kind of jealously, not an extreme mental torture that I use to feel knowing some man had penetrated the potential future mother of my kids. I mean that just makes you feel violated.

Only guys will understand what I mean, women can never get this.

I mean I had girlfriends before, and I never cared for a single second about their past, but man wife, wife is totally different thing. She is going to be your kids mother, your grand kids grandmother, she should be pure. Women are a thing of purity, like hidden gems (as the Quran describes women of paradise).

Even in Western culture, a girl who sleeps with diff guys is ridiculed by her peers and looked down upon, while the boy who could get the most girls is idolized by everyone, and boasts about it. That’s how it works, I never said it was fair.

Well of course, before you marry someone you should always get tested. and yeah Alhamdulliah everything was good, as I was never stupid enough to not be safe.

You are relating your ACT to Islam. Wow… you just did it because you wanted it. If you did it for the sake of good deed, Then you could do SABAR on all her acts and try to change her. every human can be tamed. If you were trying to be good muslim…you would know what is AJAR of SABAR. Why didnt you try that too? Here you are talking rubbish by “pretending” that you wanted to avoid zina, when you had girl friends earlier…and you never gave a second thought to it while having sex with your girl friends. Can you think about the husbands of all those girls you have ****ed as they were your girl friends???

You are too typical and more cheaper then an ignorant paindo Pakistani who is generalizing divorced women. Dont mention Quran and Hadees if you cant practice it completely. How can you guarantee that you current wife is UNTOUCHED??? She might be virgin but she could have done so many other things then having intercourse. I’m not trying to degrade her…But point is a divorced woman who was actually religiously/socially married to a man You think would be a ***** just because she is tagged as a Divorced? & a girl who would might have had slept with so many other guys but just because she is SINGLE she will be innocent.

You people with snobbish islamic drama are worse than jews and non Muslims. you bring islam into anything where its beneficial for You & forget rest of Islam only because you dont want to DO that.

Its a long debate, But dont related your stupid mistakes to Islam. that you tried to help her…If you were that kind…you could have tolerated her and won the heaven forever as in AJAR of SABAR.

Tum mardon ko right after Ejaculation KHUDA yaad aa jata hay. Aur gunah ka ehsaas hota hay. Khuda gunah karney say pehlay yaad aana chahiay baad main nahi. Then they blame “shetaan ne behka dia tha”

huh…double standards…