My experience with a divorced lady.

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Re: My experience with a divorced lady.

@EDAL

I mean I had girlfriends before, and I never cared for a single second about their past, but man wife, wife is totally different thing. She is going to be your kids mother, your grand kids grandmother, she should be pure. Women are a thing of purity, like hidden gems (as the Quran describes women of paradise).

Even in Western culture, a girl who sleeps with diff guys is ridiculed by her peers and looked down upon, while the boy who could get the most girls is idolized by everyone, and boasts about it. That’s how it works, I never said it was fair.

Some people here are being ridiculous for blaming you for making a naive mistake.

But dear God, there can’t be anything more ridiculous than what you just said there! You were sexually active and that is fine by you, but the women can’t be. If you expect that of women (even if it’s just your wife), then you should clearly state that you shouldn’t have taken that path either. It can’t be ok for you and not be ok for women.

Western culture is not any less screwed up than the desi culture when it comes to gender equality. We know it isn’t fair. We also know that it isn’t right.

Secondly, who is to say that a woman isn’t a pure, good woman anymore, just because she (or a man for that reason) is sexually experienced? I don’t understand how clearly you said all of that without taking into account that you did the same.

This is not to insult. But who knows if your wife is too naive, or wayyy too much in love to not see the problem here. You wouldn’t have gone for her if she weren’t a virgin. See what I am saying there?