You know what the main things girls should take from my thread! Guard your chastity keep it for your husbands only! Because even if its not fair, society will judge you harshly for that, while the guy will get away with it. **
Oh yeah? That guarding your chastity rule applies to MEN AS WELL. Just because society is more critical of desi women who lose their virginity and lets man get away with the same gunnah…doesn’t mean that Allah will let you get away with it as well. And it’s HIM that you should be more worried about. This life is a test…and one of those tests involves not surrendering to peer pressure and society’s double standards…and striving against your lower nafs…to do what is right in Islam. And this is not only confined to women. It includes men as well. 
If you do get a husband, treat him with care and respect. Remember, Pakistani guys or Muslim guys, even if their born in California, you can’t change their genes and way of thinking. Their not white guys, they will not tolerate the things white guys do.
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LMAO!!! How the hell is genes related to way of thinking? Thinking can be conditioned by upbringing and society…and both these can uphold faulty views. Both husbands and wives should be treated with respect. The best man is the one who is kindest to his wife…yes, that’s a hadith. And they will not “tolerate” things white guys do. Ya know what? White guys sleep around…but they’ll be MORE okay with having a wife who is not a virgin because they know that they aren’t so clean themselves. At least the white guys are more honest…there’s more consistency. Whereas SOME desi guys are more forgiving of their own non-virgin states but can’t tolerate it in their wives. How sad and pathetic. **
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So guard your purity.**
Yes, women should guard their purity so they can get a “pure” husband like Edal, . You don’t guard your purity to get a spouse…you don’t guard it to please society…you guard it because you believe in it …because you follow Allah’s rules. **You should be a politician, Edal…with your contradictions and double standards.
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