Re: My experience with a divorced lady.
When I first started reading EDAL’s original post, I started to agree with it. I know of divorced girls who were screwed over in their marriages and I also know of girls who are to be blamed for their divorce. So I know that there are 2 sides to a story. I know that there are some psycho girls out there. A guy is not always to be blamed for a divorce. A guy can be mentally/physically abused by a girl and there are plenty of girls who lack common sense and social skills.
I also know of DIVORCED girls who were remarried to VIRGIN guys and are completely HAPPY in their marriage. The guy did not give the excuse, “I’m marrying her because I feel sorry for her and it’s sunnah.” It’s almost like “sunnah” is being used as an excuse to cover up the failure of the marriage… when in reality, the guy was head over heels in love with the girl and didn’t do a proper background check.
I get that you wanted a pure girl. But I would also like to tell you that the “act” is very emotional for girls. A girl will compare herself in her mind to the ex-wife of the present husband.
I agree with Lahori. I don’t know what college you went to… but I went to a college that is in the top 10 list for pretty girls and partying (I’m not going to say which college, but most likely my school trumps yours). And I know of LOTS of good guys who went to school with me and kept their pants on. So don’t use the college you went to as an excuse for your sexual history. You had no self-control. Whereas your ex-wife, who probably was a horrible person, at least had more self-control by losing her virginity to her first husband.
So where do the divorced girls go? To a shelter? “More experienced men”… like you’re not experienced enough 
Experienced men like you want only pure girls… you really think a slightly older guy won’t want the same?
Also… being “liberal” and coming from an “open-minded” family… did your dad not talk to you about this virginity issue when you married your first wife? I would think he would have taken you aside and talked to you about it.