Re: My eldest…
May be he does not need to take notes, some kids have very good memory ( photographic memory) and comprehension , he seems to be one of those kids. Do not push him to the extent that he starts hating you , despising you and become rebellious or depressed. Work with him , adjust to his style of studies and work habits , do not try to change those habits upside down or as you like them to be, help him tweak those a little , again a little , if they need tweaking.
Being a strict parent is not something to be proud of , you need to let the kids grow , glow and thrive . Yes maintaining discipline and balance essential to being good parent but being strict is not required to do so.
Yes we all get frustrated sometime when our expectations are not met by our kids , in that case we have to step back and look at those expectations and try to address the following questions:
- Are those expectations reasonable ?
- Is my child capable of meeting those expectations ?
- What have I done to help the kid to meet those expectations ?
- Why is he/she not able to meet those expectations ?
- What can I do to improve the results ?
- What can the kid do to improve the results ?