Re: My dads new wife…help.
I am not being mean. I’m just being truthful, honest and blunt. Sorry that it’s making you feel bad. Reality can be harsh.
And just because I am telling you to do stuff doesn’t mean that I think you are doing everything wrong. I am giving you advice that you can actually follow. I am not telling you to throw yourself at the mercy of others. I am suggesting things that you can control.
ONLY YOU can decide to reach out and build a bridge with your step-mom so that she sees that you are willing to learn to do things her way. If you rely on your father or your step mom to fix things then you will forever be waiting and hoping. If you take the initiative then you will feel more empowered because you will be in control.
ONLY YOU can change your attitude and make things easier on yourself. Instead of seeing things from a victim’s point of view, try to see it as an opportunity to ensure that the new family structure is built on a really strong, positive foundation. Be the change that you want to see happen. May sound like a cliche but it will work.
ONLY YOU can improve the situation for all involved since you are the common factor.
The way I look at things, if I am unhappy then the primary person and often the ONLY person that can change that in a hurry is ME.