Re: my career is not compatible with marriage
I agree with X2 and LL.
My mother is a doctor.. she gave up on her ob/gyn career and went into radiology while I was a baby because she wanted to give me more time and decided to do something that would take less time comparitively. Before my brother and I even hit teen years, she was running her own clinic but never during my entire life I have felt that my mother didn’t look after us well. Despite of having grandmothers and a nanny, my mum never left us at their mercy entirely. She never missed any important events in our school, fed us herself, and no matter how tired she would be after work, she would still cook and take care of the family. At times I am selfish and wish my mother had been home 24/7 but that’s wrong because she also has a life of own as an individual. I am so proud of her for balancing her demanding profession and her home life, and of course her achievements. Even today when we are in our 20’s, she cooks for us, looks after us and is always such a wonderful mother. I look at my brother and sister and realize how well they have been raised- cultured, religious and selfless/generous towards others.. and even at this age, we are so scared of my parents and cannot dismis anything they tell us to do.
Same with my parents in law as well. When my husband was a baby, his mother worked during the day while the dad worked during night so one of them could be with the baby at all times. Today my mil is a big successful executive and works very long hours, however, all her time is her family’s once she is home. And everyone always commends on the way she has raised her three boys despite of always been a working mother.
Personally speaking, I would not work when I have kids because unlike my two moms I mentioned above, I really lack the ability to multi task.. I know that balancing both would be very tough for me and not to mention tiring 