Re: my career is not compatible with marriage
Actually, the more I think about it, the worse your situations seems to my eyes.
My understanding is that for a successfull career in the diplomatic service, you need to be geographically mobile and live in several different countries over your career. Therefore you would ideally need a man who is ok with that.
However, moving around tends to be disruptive towards career development and thus income. So any man who moves around with you would need to be willing to put his career interests behind yours, and accept you as the primary breadwinner for the family.
Now that runs counter to the expectations that most societies (both desi and non-desi) traditionally lay upon men. Any man who signs up to that would need to be willing to live with the slight feeling of humiliation that others would try and foist onto him both in front of him and behind his back. He would also have to give up his own career ambitions - again, not something that societies traditionally encourage.
Unless you manage to choose a path in the diplomatic service that involves staying put in one country, or find a man with a career that is easily geographically mobile (some form of consultant, perhaps), then you place yourself in a tight bind.
We live in a society that expects that if one party does have to sacrifice career hopes and ambitions for marriage....... it's the girl, not the guy. Finding a spouse with a compatible personality is hard enough; finding a spouse with a suitable personality who is also willing to defy convention is so much harder.