Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
It's an awful situation. I really hope and pray that someone can make the courageous choice and just move forward.
Life is super short, by the sounds of it you guys haven't had much pleasantness. Just begin to make choices that make you feel happy and content. You all can are adults and are able to control your lives, just let go of people, situations and memories that are toxic.
I despise drama or stupidity and avoid it religiously, if you want calm, peace and happiness, cut your losses and move on.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
wow. really sad story. atleast your mom is not suffering anymore and has the support of her family and kids. you guys should all try to help each other out and stay strong. good luck with starting your new life in canada.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
Our tickets are booked for Canada next week. My dad has literally forced us out of the house, says we can't live there anymore. My mother can't even observe her iddah at home now.
We have temporarily moved in to my younger brother's house. He can't afford to keep us for long.
my Ex-bhabhi has found out we are going to,Canada and is now repeatedly calling on my brother's mobile and demanding him to do rujoo. My brother has so far refused, but he told me secretly he wants to end the divorce because he can't live with the fact that he has been divorced, but he's afraid of his ex-wife.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
Our tickets are booked for Canada next week. My dad has literally forced us out of the house, says we can't live there anymore. My mother can't even observe her iddah at home now.
We have temporarily moved in to my younger brother's house. He can't afford to keep us for long.
my Ex-bhabhi has found out we are going to,Canada and is now repeatedly calling on my brother's mobile and demanding him to do rujoo. My brother has so far refused, but he told me secretly he wants to end the divorce because he can't live with the fact that he has been divorced, but he's afraid of his ex-wife.
She cannot demand him to do Ruju. That's his right and he can use it if he wishes. She can only come back if he asks her.
Wanting to save his marriage is your brother's right and responsibility. Being divorced or getting divorced is not easy and comes with its own emotional and mental tolls. But I do believe that marriage is a union of two SINCERE people that truly want to be married to each other and are willing to do what it takes to make things work. People cannot stay married to themselves or thin air...it only works well if both parties are in it forever.
Your brother needs to decide if he wants to stay married to his ex-wife. Does he want her **back in his life? Does he **care **for **her? If his reasoning is "I don't want to be divorced"...then trust me...divorce is not the end of the world. He will be fine.
My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need help?
Marriage is not a game! It is a contract made before Allah. Lots of problems will and do come during a marriage. and many married ppl at one point or another do think that ending the marriage will make them happier. But often it is a temporary statement of mind. You don't send papers and force your husband to sign and then wake up the next day and change your mind.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
I am a cynic and my brain and heart sort of think this can't happen in the real world and I really hope this is not true, Pray to ALLAH that whatever is best for the family will happen
My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need help?
^^i sort of was thinking the same. It seems too much like a star plus drama. how was your family able to secure visas for Canada? As per my limited knowledge it is pretty hard to get visas to Canada. Have some family members who haven't been able to get a visa for their sister for years.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
My phopo called us today on my brother's mobile. After my parents divorce she says they have no taluq with us so she is breaking off my engagement with her friend's son.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
My phopo lied her friend's family that I am formerly divorced and therefore my fiance's family has broken off my mangni. Now I am afraid not just for my future, but for my sister's too.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
I haven't read all the replied to the thread and someone may have said this already but all I have to say is "Please stop interfering in your brother's life.. .even now. You have ruined it enough for him. Let him and his wife solve their own issues. Maybe if he gets her a separate accomodation, away from the interfering father and sister, they can solve out their issues". Who Knows? If not, he should divorce her... that again should be his decision.. not yours.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
I feel like it just keeps getting worse and worse, that is a huge blow though for an already fragile situation, have you talked to your fiancé at all about this broken engagement because maybe your phupo is misleading you? it is getting really complicated I wish it was easier on you, please pray to Allah that he not afflict you with any more and make your life easy.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
Hello Farah
Divorcing her would be the wisest option and I'm sure most people would suggest you the same
However he should be careful as divorce laws in the west are very biased against men. A man might be required to pay a lifetime of alimony, in addition to splitting half of his assets with her. Fortunately child support is irrelevant in your bro's case. You need to explain to your brother that he is fortunate they didnt have a child otherwise not only she would've won custody of the child but also blackmailed your bro for the rest of his life.
You mention your brother is good looking which means he can obtain female companionship and intimacy w/o marriage & commitment. After getting divorced he doesnt need to remarry quickly. He should enjoy being single for a while. Try to explain this to him also.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
^^i sort of was thinking the same. It seems too much like a star plus drama. how was your family able to secure visas for Canada? As per my limited knowledge it is pretty hard to get visas to Canada. Have some family members who haven't been able to get a visa for their sister for years.
Being british citizens, it is very easy for us to go to Canada without visa
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
Today is our flight to Canada. Wish me luck!!!!
Anyways I have explained everything to my fiance'. He and his family apologised for their misunderstanding. So my engagement is back on.
However something makes me feel very uneasy. That family broke the mangni so easily due to a mere lie without proper investigation. I feel if something was to happen in the future after I am married, then they will again make rash decisions and the repercussions will be much worse.
I am not even sure if I want this engagement anymore. What is ur advice?
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother’s life and we don’t know how to rebuild it. Need h
My goodness Farah ji - what time is your flight? You must be posting from the airport since I don’t know of (m)any flights leaving the UK bound for Canada after 9pm and by my estimation it must be 8:40pm in the UK right about now - hai na?
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
Being british citizens, it is very easy for us to go to Canada without visa
yes....it is easy for you to arrive on a British passport and have visitor visas issued at the airport.....but these are just that.....visitor visas that will require you to return to UK within a limited period of time.
Re: My bhabhi destroyed my brother's life and we don't know how to rebuild it. Need h
yes....it is easy for you to arrive on a British passport and have visitor visas issued at the airport.....but these are just that.....visitor visas that will require you to return to UK within a limited period of time.
I will return to England soon to get married. It is my brother who is applying for a work visa(youth mobility scheme visa rite now). He will return to England to pick up that visa as he can't receive that visa inside Canada.
8:40pm in the UK right about now - hai na?