Shadow, I just went back and read your most recent post where you said that your tried talking to your friend and that she accused you of being jealous.
Your mom told you that you shouldn't have gotten involved. Have you told your mom what you have observed about this guy's behavior? Does your mom know your best friend's mom?
Here are some suggestions that I have, but I don't no know if they will work because they could be a bit risky:
1) Your said that your mom told you that you shouldn't have interfered. Does your mom know the whole story about what you've observed in regards to your friend's fiance? Does your mom know your friend's mom? Does your mom have good rapport with your friend's mom? If so............try........asking your mom if she could talk to your friend's mom. Perhaps your mom, being an adult, will be able to get through to your friend's mom. Your mom *could tell her mom that *"Your daughter is like my daughter and I want her to have a happy marriage. Lately my daughter is concerned because she has seen some questionable behavior regarding your son-in-law to be. I'm not saying that my daughter is 100% correct because sometimes we think we know the entire details of a situation but we end up being wrong. But I just thought that you should be made aware of the situation and it could be something that you might want to investigate. Regardless of whatever you and your family decides....we wish you and your daughter all the happiness in the world"
^ IF your mom and her mom are good friends and have good rapport........this might work. On the other hand, if they're not that close, then this might be trickier. Think about it.
2) Call your friend and try to "patch-up" with her. And then when your friend has cooled down........try to lead her to her fiance's behavior. In other words, if you know that the fiance and indian girl are going to be at a party. BRING YOUR FRIEND TO THAT PARTY. BUT DON'T TELL HER THAT HE'S GOING TO BE THERE. Let her see for herself. So, basically any time that him and the indian girl will be in a location for a long period of time.........bring your friend to that even without telling him that he's there and let her see his behavior.
3) Is there anybody who could perhaps talk to the guy? I wouldn't suggest you to do it because the guy could possibly turn this all against you and get you in more trouble. But I'm thinking is there perhaps a friend of yours (A REALLY TRUSTWORTHY FRIEND)......who has seen this guy's behavior..........and who could possibly talk to him about what he's doing. It would have to be a trustworthy person who won't rat or squeal on you. Someone (could be a guy or a girl) who can talk to the fiance and tell him that his behavior is rather questionable since he's engaged and that if he's not interested in your friend, he should consider ending the rishta.
*****Perhaps my ideas are silly. I was just thinking of other ways to help. Ultimately as other posters have said.............it's your friend's life and she's an adult and can make her own decisions. She's acting like a jerk by not trusting you (whom she's known for ages) over a guy she's only known for 2 months. The positive thing in this situation is that even though your friend has accused you of being jealous, at least now she might be more alert regarding his behavior. Maybe it's in her kismat to learn the hard way. InshaAllah everything will fall into place. You did your part though. :)
thank you so much redvelvet. your posts are very informative. i like that. yeah my mom knows her mom & they're friends but my mom says we shouldn't get involved with this matter. my mom says i did what i could & now stay out of this. just like you said now my so called friend is "alerted" so let her deal with it.