woa - this guy is a freak... stay out as far as you can!
It seems this guy married your friend knowing her "weak situation" since she had just broken off with her boyfriend, and her elders have passed away.
He took advantage of that situation and now he feels that he rules, and did a favor to your friend by marring her... allowing him to do whatever he wishes now?
You stay out of this. It seems that even if you tell your friend - she will still have "less" choice in what to do - she will still choose to keep her married life and suffer within. However, you might lose a friend by telling her because the situation will be too awkward for her to face you knowing her hubby is thinking about you.
Wow - really! A problem created out of nothing! Bekar ki tension.
Everyone is fine and healthy yet someone is dying within.
Aside from staying away from this dude, you should try saving your friend too before its too late. You should tell her what happend, the whole thing and how he planned on this all along. If she is a good friend she will believe you. If she doesn't, you have done your part.
Wow!! That's for all guys .. it is a tough situation ..and I so wanna tell her but then again .. there's no right way to tell her!! I'm gonna stay away and she has always been a smart girl and I already know she is figuring it out .. cause of teh way they were with each other .. so I guess I'm gonna wait for her to come to me with her concerns and then I ll tell her about what happened and then it's upto her to stay friends with me or quit talking to me ... I'll know I did my part!
feeling sorry for tha poor Girl, may Allah solve her problems soon, seems like as she has come to know abt the hubby's tricky personality , and if not she will soon come to kno abt him.
advice for u is same as all wise ppl have give that keep urself aside from her and her hubby. we can understand that u have softcorner for her deep in ur heart as she was ur best frnd, but sumtimes a bit selfishness can save us. as the situation is so critical that, if u'll try to help out ur frnd explaining all that stuff, it might b possible she wont trust u, or the hubby save himself blaming u that u were on to him, not he.
keep urself away from it and just pray for ur frnd. thats how u can help her out by ur prayers.
Do as other posters suggested.. And dont be surprised if one good morning u find out that this was the man who created misunderstandings btw ur friend and her ex.. u JUST STAY AWAY
Wow!! That's for all guys .. it is a tough situation ..and I so wanna tell her but then again .. there's no right way to tell her!! I'm gonna stay away and she has always been a smart girl and I already know she is figuring it out .. cause of teh way they were with each other .. so I guess I'm gonna wait for her to come to me with her concerns and then I ll tell her about what happened and then it's upto her to stay friends with me or quit talking to me ... I'll know I did my part!
I read your posts. Thanks for sharing.
Let me ask one question. Why you did not forcefully, angrilly or firmly told this man what he should not do.
You mentioned your attraction for men for a long time. Which is alright more power to you.:)
But why ask people what to do? I mean are you not sure?
Someone taking time to write the story and showing that someone who is husband of her best friend attracted to her is kinda wierd.
Just find a man for you and he will fight for and protect you.
Why hang around with married couple specially in situations where the man could get you alone?
^ Diwana - It's guys like you that disgust me (my hubby included) - you just want to support the guy and BLAME the girl.
It was the GUY who made advances.
I talked about this wid my hubby - and you know what he said - It's probably the character of the girl which made it easy for the guy to generously say what he did - knowing the girl's intentions! HUH - what? I had to SMACK him hard!
like everyone else has been advising to stay away from him and her. she can only realize this on her own as nobody can tell her anything rite now. wat im thinking is that maybe he married her to get to U.
secondly, if he was such as good friend of her ex's, and her ex says he is a bas**** then WHY the hell was he friends with him (like a bro.)????? makes u wonder...(hmm..and he was a cheater too)
also, not trying to be offensive, but i think it was really wrong of this friend of urs to go and marry her ex's BEST FRIEND. its like u now marrying her ex. how would she feel???
thirdly, im nt too sure exactly wat these ppl think whom u r around (im assuming they are mostly desies) but maybe since u have too many guy friends, ur friend's hubby thinks ..... well u know.
anyways, the situation doesnt surprises me much as this happens everywhere but i just dont understand/know WHY he is playing such games.
last thing u want is ur friend and her hubby spreading crazy rummors about u that could affect ur reputation/relationship. Best wishes !!
Ok what I don't understand is that how on earth did your friend allow you guys to be alone together in the room and she herself left you guys to have dinner??? Especially since she already heard the story of the ass grabbing?!?!?
Ok what I don't understand is that how on earth did your friend allow you guys to be alone together in the room and she herself left you guys to have dinner??? Especially since she already heard the story of the ass grabbing?!?!?
^ Diwana - It's guys like you that disgust me (my hubby included) - you just want to support the guy and BLAME the girl.
It was the GUY who made advances.
I talked about this wid my hubby - and you know what he said - It's probably the character of the girl which made it easy for the guy to generously say what he did - knowing the girl's intentions! HUH - what? I had to SMACK him hard!
Deeply sorry if somehow I made you feel disgusted or whatever.
You had same response from your husband which makes sense.
Yes many men are nice and a large number is after any girl they find alone.
And yet there are women who have wierd and unusual feeling also. That includes envy/jealousy for their best friends to be married or they just don't want to leave them alone for the sake of old time.
When best friend gets married, give him or her space. Get over the fact you were friend before and had a great time. Just let them go and meet them infrequently.
She just have to find a man in her life and stop hanging around married couple by herself specially avoid circumstances described.
I am not saying I am expert on these kind of situations but the story was wierd and characters seem wierd also.
As mentioned by other two posts above it took three to Tango.:)
well if someone especially doesnt have a 'great reputation' and is found/seen alone with a man then y shouldnt he take advantage of that. not that im in support of such acts and/or think that its rite. but thats just the way things are. just WHY would a female be alone with a male, especially knowing that male is nt a nice person at heart.
Let me ask one question. Why you did not forcefully, angrilly or firmly told this man what he should not do.
You mentioned your attraction for men for a long time. Which is alright more power to you.:)
But why ask people what to do? I mean are you not sure?
Someone taking time to write the story and showing that someone who is husband of her best friend attracted to her is kinda wierd.
Just find a man for you and he will fight for and protect you.
Why hang around with married couple specially in situations where the man could get you alone?
Do you want to admit something here?
Wow! You gotta go read the whole thread again. I have nowhere been goin on about getting it on with her hubby. The whole thread is about WETHER OR NOT I SHOULD TELL HER OR LEAVE HER ALONE AND LET HER FIND OUT ABOUT WHAT A FREAK HER HUBBY IS HERSELF!!
Do read the whole thing again and read what people are saying aswell...
Wow! You gotta go read the whole thread again. I have nowhere been goin on about getting it on with her hubby. The whole thread is about WETHER OR NOT I SHOULD TELL HER OR LEAVE HER ALONE AND LET HER FIND OUT ABOUT WHAT A FREAK HER HUBBY IS HERSELF!!
Do read the whole thing again and read what people are saying aswell...
off course people are right about telling you to leave them alone.
Telling her is not going to solve the problem. it will create more complications.
Staying away from them is going to help everyone.
You will not have to deal with this 'freak'.
What I was discussing as to why in the first place this situation happened.