Re: My baby’s 1st b-day
Exactly what I thought. So a soft pat on the back it is then.
But a pat on the back is not the same as hitting. You have already portrayed your FIL as a childbeater The way ypou are telling your story sounds as if he is an abuser 
Now I can imagine that you dont like him patting your child on the back, that is a personal thing, no discussion about that. But you do not accuse someone of something that he/she does not do!
And I know exactly what kind of ‘slappings’ on the back you are talking about, again its not the point of disliking it or not, but that is NOT the same as hitting/abusing a baby.