My baby's 1st b-day

Chameli420 · May 7, 2012, 1:13pm

Re: My baby’s 1st b-day

Are you frigging kidding me??!! Your child, who is less than 1 years old, is slapped on his back and you don’t say anything b/c you don’t want to “create a scene”?!! Even though as his mother you felt the behavior was inappropriate? Why does your husband need to tell you what to do when it comes to a 3rd party slapping your child on the back?! You’re not capable of defending your own child as the mother?!

For some reason I was thinking you lived with your in-laws…hence you FIL actually believing that he has the power/right to tell you that you can’t invite your family for your child’s 1st bday. Now I realize from this post that your FIL doesn’t live with you!!!

You seriously need to grow up and start putting your child first. Have the bday part and invite whoever you want to invite. Why are you even discussing this with your FIL?! You and your husband decide and finalize details on the party and invite whoever you want to. Your husband can let his parents know that if they CHOOSE not to attend the party due to your family being there…then they will definately be missed and that you guys hope they can visit on a separate time soon after.

And for the sake of your child…stop worrying to frigging much about other people’s feelings or not creating a scene. Your child should come first…PERIOD! If someone doesn’t like how you want you child raised whether it comes to disciplining him or who to invite to his birthday party…then they don’t have to come stay with you or attend the party.

FIL was invited by us to come over in February. he came over as a guest and has stayed here for several months and recently he declared that he is not gonna go back to his house which is in another city meaning that he is planning to live with us from now on.

he has taken over everything. I mean he should have asked how we feel about it or at least have talked about it…and he doesnt even let us discuss to buy a bigger house. We live in a 2 bedroom flat and I feel there is no privacy at all!!!

I agree that I should have taken a stand when he was slapping my baby’s back. I feel bad I didnt do anything. time to stop being nice and stupid!!!