S02
May 19, 2012, 3:55am
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Re: My 13 year old daughter wants to go for a sleepover.
The thing is, I was never invited to sleepovers at that age. I was told that this was and still is, an English/American custom that kids do as part of growing up. They need their circle of friends and should be given some independance. I don’t agree. You don’t need to send your pubescent daughter to an English girl’s home for a sleepover just to blend in with her circle and get some freedom/independence.
I have explained that eating and drinking from a kafir’s house, especially where there is dirty meat, probably loose immoral talk and chit chat amongst the adults there is not a good environment for my daughter. I don’t think that English people have the best regard to personal hygiene when using the toilets and it is with these hands that they touch everything. I have brought up my kids to keep themselves ‘paak’. Being in school, this is not always possible.
I have explained this to her as well as the fact that anything can happen. I have offered her a compromise, i.e a movie at our house with some mates around or we all go to see a movie.
I don’t think your explanation should have involved putting down her friends’ families and really an entire community/nationality. It is incorrect and breeds hate, paranoia, and prejudice.