Re: Mutah [temporary marriage] in the time of Amir ul Momineen Ali ibn Abi Talib
If its only for getting to know someone, then why forge a marriage bond out of it? I
Well how are they supposed to get to know one another, if Islam doesn't allow that with nah-mehram? Mut'a is allowed by Islam so it serves this purpose.
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I'd rather take a 3rd approach, by talking to my kids about sex early on and explaining to them that if they do want to make friends with a boy or a girl, then all activities would be done under my roof.
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I like that approach.
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Throwing your daughter in a temporary marriage, where she's open to justt as much abuse, is not much of an improvement over her having a pre-marital sexual relationship.
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Well I'm not going to throw her into anything in the first place. :)
But I don't believe that a non-sexual mut'a relationship will have any abuse, if the two like one another. And if it does, I'll take care of it.
I still believe that men are good, and I have two examples of a mut'a marriage gone successfully and ended up in permanent Nikkah.
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I mean, is it really impossible to lay down some serious ground rules and train your kids to respect you and your religion so they DON'T engage in pre-marital sex? Or is it just too hard?
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I'm not sure, but I will found out soon enough when I do have kids. It's going to hard as it is, since wife is a practicing Christian and I am a semi-practicing Muslim going towards agnostic.
But you are right, muta is open to abuse, especially by rich Nawabs as highlighted by Code-Red.