Re: Mutah [temporary marriage] in the time of Amir ul Momineen Ali ibn Abi Talib
Even if the marriage then gives her license to become sexually active, which she very well may, and later her temporary husband moves on to another woman in another muta’a or ends the marriage?
Would that be ok with you? You can’t ingore the possibilities that muta’a opens up, and its these issues which make me oppose it. If its only for getting to know someone, then why forge a marriage bond out of it? I’d rather take a 3rd approach, by talking to my kids about sex early on and explaining to them that if they do want to make friends with a boy or a girl, then all activities would be done under my roof.
Pakistanis have an issue with bringing up their kids - they think they can control EVERYTHING, and we can’t! Unfortunately, our children grow up and become their own adults with their own minds, and the BEST we can do is give them the best lessons possible on these topics and pray that they make the right decisions. And when they don’t, we need to help them out as much as possible, rather than making life for them worse.
Throwing your daughter in a temporary marriage, where she’s open to justt as much abuse, is not much of an improvement over her having a pre-marital sexual relationship. It might give others less to gossip on, but it can still hurt her. I mean, is it really impossible to lay down some serious ground rules and train your kids to respect you and your religion so they DON’T engage in pre-marital sex? Or is it just too hard?