khushi you are probably talking about those pseudo islamic desi mullahs who dont know anything about islam. dont listen to them. listen to only scholars who use evidence from quran and sunnah.
i have heard so much crap from these two cent mullahs that i never accept the word of desi pseudo mullah’s word unless i go and check his evidence my self.
i should not be saying it but since it is relevent to the topic i will say it that i read in some book that you should not look at your wife while having intercourse otherwise the child born will look at pornography, or you should not talk while having intercourse or the child born will say bad things and things like that. while it is reported that rasul :saw: used to take bath with his wife and we have pseudo mullahs saying we cant look at our wives while having intercourse…may allah guide us all to practice the best of islam.
sahih bhukhari book of ghusl
No. 264 - Narrated 'Aisha:
The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot of water after Janaba.
No. 262 - Narrated Aisha:
The Prophet and I used to take a bath from a single pot of water and our hands used to go in the pot after each other in turn.
alhamdullillah you listed the bounties of allah on the rasul of allah :saw:, indeed he was blessed with those bounties but i was talking about bounties of wealth and lots of children (he had no son, while sons were considered more than wealth back then) he did not have mountains of gold and so forth. otherwise yeah he was a blessed person and we do not doubt that. but you gotta understand where i am going..kafirs do not accept blessing of islam as blessing, they do not consider being pious a blessing from God, they only see gold, silver, cars, children, tangible things as blessing from God and that is why they seem to be more blessed than us. but in reality muslims are blessed with islam, and good deeds and so on, so in the hereafter our good deeds will benefit us inshallah, while the gold and silver and cars and wealth of kuffar will not. that is when they will realize that their weatlh which they considered to be blessing from God will not help them in any way. do you get me now? pls tell me yes.
Having lived and worked in the west all my life, alchohol is probably the only issue where my faith has clashed with the western values. I try not to attend events where I know alcohol will be present at my table. Where I have been compromised I have felt terrible.
But things are changing - I had the most wonderful line manager who use to ensure that we would have social gatherings where no alcohol was present. She was never asked to do this, she just knew that it was preferable for muslims. In my next workplace they would try and arrange outings that did not involve alcohol such as high tea.
For those of you whose responses are so charged with negativity, you seem to forget it is an obligation on employers to ensure they do not have practices that exlude people, something called equal opportunities. It is only in the interest of the employer to ensure their staff feel valued and respected.
It is not easy to tackle this issue, it needs to be done sensetively, I would advise talking to your line manager (if they are talkable to), suggesting alternate venues or outings. You could be pleasantly surprised.
And before anyone says it, vice verse: if my staff could not cope with a social outing that did not involve alcohol i would be seriously worried about their ability to do their job!
Freindships are based on shared understanding and respect. All my non muslim friends are wonderful, they go to great lengths to ensure they are sensetive, like cooking halal meat and not having alcohol. I do the same for their sensetivities - its a non issue - untill that is I meet someone who wants to be a freind but cannot survie an outing without alcohol!