Re: Muslim Marriage Crisis: MuslimMatters
sighz
We really do complicate things for ourselves.
Re: Muslim Marriage Crisis: MuslimMatters
agree, both sides must be decent enough to at least let the party know they're not interested.
Secondly, this makes it seem that everything depends on that photograph. Anything else doesn't matter. The guy/girl has to be movie-star looking. Otherwise its a rejection right away. Even if it could've been a good match, but no s/he has to look like a filmstar like in a dreamworld.
Other option left is to go to Pakistan, where this photo thing doesn't really matter and things can be done more traditionally and with more ease.
if you are going through arrange route, unfortunately, things progress with a photograph and your personal information/biodata/resume. One of them has to weight for the things to progress. I am not supporting this practice but just stating what I have observed.
In Pakistan a photo matters even more, unless you have a foreign residency/citizenship.
Re: Muslim Marriage Crisis: MuslimMatters
Asking for a photo doesn't make it just about looks, it's to see if there's any initial physical attraction as part of the bigger picture (you tend to know a bit about the person as well).. Personally I think it can save a lot of the awkwardness you get when there are only face to face meetings and more expectations and pressure as you're further along in the process and your families are sitting there with you..
There's nothing overly shallow about wanting to meet a person you're already attracted to versus not feeling anything or chancing it..