I'd rather my husband were lashed for his indiscretions than ruin my entire life and ruin the lives of my possible children.
I think you only want to satisfy your ego, and you are afarid to be cosnidered insufficent for your husband. It will be only cheating yourself so be open your eyes and face the truth and take your stand bravley either to allow him to share or leave him or tecah him a lesson. Be honest whatever you do or chose to do.
good luck