At a desi wedding I went to recently (i was from the bride’s side) the groom leaned in and kissed the bride. I have known the bride for quite some time and i could tell she was really embarassed. her family is conservative and reigious and this was pretty unexpected. Now for the movie she is saying she wants to cut that part out so her family isnt reminded of it adn bcuz she wants to send the video to Pakistan.
All of us friends are pretty split some say she should leave it adn other thinks its best to cut it?
What do you guys think she should do?
Re: Muah!
Her wishes need to be respected.
The man should not have done it without her consent and approval as she obviously did not approve of it.
What a stupid man! Did not know her wishes.
One should never start a respected relation with such a dumb act of embarassing the life partner.
If she is asking for editing the scene then she has all the right and freedom to do so. She did not have any control on the act.
Re: Muah!
pretty insensitive of the groom given her family's conservative values and clearly her opinions on PDA! yeesh. i'd say she remove it since she's so embarrassed about it and also because thats not the way you should feel when your husband kisses you!
Re: Muah!
oh gosh!!!
i think it should be cut... especially if the family and the girl herself is embarrased about it.
Re: Muah!
I agree with you all! when she told her husband her concerns he told her she was a paindu and closedminded and she needed to loosen up... when he kissed her i swear tears came in to her eyes (it was so sad) and he did it right after the nikkah so she said the rest of the night she was sooo embarassed and he basically ruined her wedding for her :(
^ First he was foolish enough to kiss her in front of everyone and then he
is insensitive to her feelings when tells him about her reaction. Great.
I agree with everyone. She should just edit it and just move on hoping he thinks twice before doing something even close like that again.
I've seen a few couples kiss lightly on the lips at valima's abroad. I feel so embaressed when they do.
I agree with you all! when she told her husband her concerns he told her she was a paindu and closedminded and she needed to loosen up... when he kissed her i swear tears came in to her eyes (it was so sad) and he did it right after the nikkah so she said the rest of the night she was sooo embarassed and he basically ruined her wedding for her :(
No. Not at all. She is not a paindu. He is a stupid man as I said before.
Did he not know her inclinations??
The woman he is married to is his wife and there is no reason for him to embarras her like that. Insisting upon his behavior is troublesome.
He has watched too many movies and whoever decided to this marriage did not have homework. No fault of her at all.
Since she was in the scene then she has all the right to remove the scene. Its her property by force.
Re: Muah!
aww bichari, i feel so bad for her. Were they engaged for a while? did he not know the family to well. maybe thats the case?
Re: Muah!
Well, many people will think it was only a kiss and a gesture of affection and love.
OK.
She did not like it.
What could be the more important matter in this relation?
The life is to be spent by two partners. She is 50% of that.
He did not agree with her position from the beginning. He calls her paindu from his perspective. How sad.
Did he not know she was from a conservative family?
Kissing your to be wife infront of people has never......... and never been shown to be something good in terms of keeping the relation or building loving relationship. Its just a show off and the people may just feel freedom to do it whenever and wherever they want to do it.
Aside from that, it seems he did not have enough knowledge nor the sensitivity to go ahead and kiss her in front of people despite her disapproval. Thats just a dumb act.
Re: Muah!
heheheh cant blv it poor babes its really embarrasing in fromt of ur family she should simply cut it i guess :) that will be best
Re: Muah!
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Re: Muah!
If the groom does that, and the bride slaps him, what do you think will happen then? 
Because… that might be a total natural reaction, you see. :halo:
diwana, post edit kyun ki 
Re: Muah!
I think he knew her family was conservative but was just not thinking about that. My friend and him were engaged for a year and it was arranged completely so at the time it was like being kissed by a complete stranger.... imagine that pluus u just feel akward after
You’ve got to be kidding me. What was he thinking, really? Well anyway if it was love marriage, I could have cut him some slack. :halo:
:CareBear: What a guy!
Only reason I edit my post is when i feel it is better for conveying the message I want to send. I still cannot guarentee if someone takes it wrong and I am not aware of it.
Coimg to the topic. She has absolutely no freedom to slap the man to be her husband. She is helpless. He from the first day showed her his opinion by force or whatever. Not a good gesture.
Re: Muah!
Gotta agree, what a guy!
Re: Muah!
diwana, thanks for coming back to answer me :)
Re: Muah!
cut it...esp if sendingthe video to pakistan, u know everyone will say that hse was doing this stuff w/ him before the wedding too.
Re: Muah!
tell the girl to just gently remind her husband that their intimate moments are private and not meant to be shared in public, especially not in the presence of her family out of respect for their traditions.
thats it.
calling the groom stupid and the bride a paindu is just silly.
why make a mountain out of a molehill.
jo ho gaya so ho gaya.
keep the kiss for their personal viewing and edit it out of the video for the family.