I’ve highlighted some bits from your post, Alvena. Take a look at them, READ them.
The first and foremost thing that you need to work on (before deciding to ignore him) is to develop some SELF-RESPECT for yourself as a woman, because I think it’s lacking and it shouldn’t be. A woman who respects herself WILL NEVER bother going after some guy who PHYSICALLY PUSHES her and treats her like crap.
Look, we ALL have our bad days. And you need to understand that people will deal with their problems differently. Some of us feel a lot better after we talk about our frustrations. And other people prefer to handle their issues by themselves and don’t feel the need or desire to pour their heart out. Perhaps this guy belongs to the latter category. Maybe he prefers to resolve issues on his own. Just because you and him were flirting for hours does not mean that he is obligated to share his issues with you. Sometimes we need to step back and let people sort out their lives in their own way. If he’s clearly shown you that he wants to be left alone…THEN LEAVE HIM ALONE.
^^^^^ Now, there’s only so much consideration that can be shown to others. He was in a pissy mood and you did the polite thing of asking him if he was okay. You even showed him that he can come talk to you if necessary. You’ve done your part. Regardless of how bad our day is or how difficult our life may seem…that does not give us the right to physically PUSH others. Rather than pushing you and slamming the door in your face and giving you a bad attitude…he could have also chosen to communicate with you in a more decent and mature manner. He could have calmly told you that he’s not in the mood to talk about things and wants some space. That’s what a mature guy does. But he’s not mature. We learn a lot about a person’s character when they are stressed.
You said that later on he texted you and asked you where you were. Before asking where you were, he should have apologized first for his behavior. He should have understood that YOUR RUDENESS is a result of him being rude to you first. But he doesn’t seem to realize or even acknowledge his mistakes. And rater than apologize, he continues to ignore you on Friday.
^ Why do you feel the need to apologize for your pissed off attitude by sending him some “warmer” text messages? U have every right to be pissed and you don’t need to compensate here. Being nice and courteous is one thing…but lacking self-respect is another.
*******You’re falling into the SAME TRAP you put yourself in before. Your EX displayed similar jerk-like/wishy-washy/hot-cold behavior. And this guy is doing the SAME thing. You managed to move on from your EX…only to fall for a guy that behaving the same as him. Like the others, I would also suggest ignoring him and focusing on school. But I wanted you to think about what you’ve written in your post so you can think about what’s going on in YOUR MIND before you worry about someone else. There could be many possibilities as to why he’s ignoring you. It’s not your headache to figure it out especially when he doesn’t respect you.
^Don’t compromise your education. If a guy is sincerely, genuinely interested in you…he won’t play mind games and will come after you. You shouldn’t be chasing him. If he wants you, he’ll know where to find you. And if the jerk does decide to come after you, he better start with an apology first…or you can kindly SLAM the door in his face, because you don’t need any more hot-cold drama in your life. Your EX already put you through that. And as LibranRulz mentioned earlier, the only reason this guy has the AUDACITY to text you n ask where you are AFTER treating you like chit is because he KNOWS that you’ll always be waiting for him now matter how rudely he behaves. So, think about the messages you’re sending him through your body language and actions. Y