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^ I am still not moving. 
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^^ couldn’t have said it better myself fayz :k:
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Fayz, you're missing the point entirely. My underlying motive behind this thread is to see how guys respond to the issue vs. girls.
Now, you've said to be flexible, right? But the real question is do you expect the flexibility to come from your to-be wife, or are YOU willing to be flexible, and what would be the criterion to decide which of the two moves?
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DM Thanks bud! I don’t know what these women are thinking…they have more at stake believe it or not. And hey! You better find someone like urself..don’t go for a stuck up bitch even if she looks like Salma Hayek 
take this word from big B
MQ, you are tough nut to crack but I know you are mature enough to see beyond you ego 
u will come to terms 
PCG, there is no fixed criteria…I will show my woman the best even if it is her decision.
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Fayz, that was really well said
PCG.... people should just put such expectations aside and stop being stubborn... it isnt always about the wife sacrificing and the guy making her do watever...its not gonna make either of them love one another any less or watever...
its between the two of them... and u will get various responses... as u can see already..
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Well I consider myself a very sensible person. I will compromise, but then he will have to also. We will work out our pros and cons, and take it from there InshAllah.
I wont act like a stubborn silly fool and refuse to move. But I dont want to - me being selfish. I know, I will have to, because like a lot of people already pointed out it seems women always have to move for the men. And maddy is right, its always about the jobs and who makes more. I might have to, and if I think it right, yes I will move with him.
But if he expects me to just move without talking it out, without considering all the other options, well then I guess we’ll have some trouble on our hands.
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I agree with Muslim Queen really. Too many guys expect girls to move. Its like this automatic expectation. Poor things. They're so influenced by silly outside factors, like culture.
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its not always culture... or the guy expecting.. and why is it only "poor girls"? i know many guys who have to move away from the wives and kids just so their wives can by that LV bag.. or just so their 4 yr old can go to the best kinder...
everyone has their problems...
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Wouldn't mind moving, so long as I'm guranteed that I get to stay in touch with my family and get to visit them often. Nonetheless, I'd give preference to not relocating.
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DM Thanks bud! I don’t know what these women are thinking
Um, most women here have said they WOULD move. Again, I urge our Pakistani men to be more appreciative of our highly flexible and caring Pakistani women. Guys of other cultures are not as lucky.
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You can be our new trend-setter. Ghar-damad hubbies all the way! :k:
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depending on the situation....If i am settled really well in my city and have a very good job i wud not move....I wud also consider about parents (both cases her and mine)...but then in the matters of heart who knows what can happen...depends on how much i love her...If she is really worth it and if i cannot live w/o her then i'll definitely move to where she lives....
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Sadiyah, that is if I find a man who is remotely open to the idea!
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havent thought about it lately but when the question was asked of me I was open to moving to wherever she finishes her studies and perhaps a portion of her career but eventually i'd want to move to where my parents are comfortable with. also compromise locations close to both families are a good option.
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MQ, I think that building you are refering to is called Mian Wali... hahah I know about that building...
PCG, my answer before used to be YES, I would do it in a heartbeat, but now two moves later....I have to be honest, its getting tougher and tougher to settle down once again... and it just throws your life into chaos...and takes that much longer to land in the same place you were before you moved...
So, now Ive told my husband unless the job is so amazing that we would be insane not to go for it..I dont want to move...but I know that if he said Im taking this job, I would support him and move...but I wouldnt be a happy camper!!
S.
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No. I move around a lot myself. I am here today, there tomorrow. I am only looking for a woman who is willing to travel a lot and then be able to be with out me for weeks when for some reason we cant travel together.
My career is dear to me, it feeds me and my future plans (for my future family, my wife and unborn children) require that I continue the way I am going. I have invested a lot of time and effort into it to give it up for a woman that I fell in love with. Infact I do not see such a scenario ever occurring, my days of falling in love at first sight are gone.
Saying all that, if it is my mother who needs me and for whatever reason she cannot come and live with me, I will go back home in a heartbeat :D
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Does this last statement make you more of a man? What are you trying to prove?
I find it very childish when guys go out of their way to draw a comparison or contrast between their wives and mothers.
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No it does not. I have had a long association with my mother, I have structured my entire life to be there for her, why would I fall in love with a girl where I will have to chose. On the same token, if after years of marriage I have to move for my wife, I will do that. Does it make sense now?
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Much better.